Ok, so I've been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months now. Things are going well. Only one thing is on my mind:
I seem to be contacting her more than she contacts me. I have to set up almost all of the get-togethers. Meaning, I always have to phone and set stuff up. We see eachother about 2 or 3 times a week now. Every time I call to set something up, she is free, so it's not like she's dodging me or anything. But if I don't call for 2 or 3 days, she doesn't call me. It's like she always wants me to initiate things.
Now for the first month, I did all the initiation of dates, and I didn't mind because hey, I'm the guy, I should be the one doing this stuff in the beginning. But after a while, shouldn't she be doing the same? I mean, I'd say I initiate 2 out of every 3 dates, meaning she does about 1/3 the work, maybe less.
I know some of you guys are thinking her IL isn't that high, but we have great sex and are getting very close. She is a shy girl, but has come out of her shell a lot, so I'd think she wouldn't have a problem initiating stuff.
I almost wonder if I should stop complaining because part of me thinks perhaps I have it good this way. Only call her up when I want to do stuff, but in the beginning few months I think it's natural to try to gauge someone's IL, and to me, her not calling as much as I call her is either a sign of low IL on her part, or just shyness.
What do you guys think?
I seem to be contacting her more than she contacts me. I have to set up almost all of the get-togethers. Meaning, I always have to phone and set stuff up. We see eachother about 2 or 3 times a week now. Every time I call to set something up, she is free, so it's not like she's dodging me or anything. But if I don't call for 2 or 3 days, she doesn't call me. It's like she always wants me to initiate things.
Now for the first month, I did all the initiation of dates, and I didn't mind because hey, I'm the guy, I should be the one doing this stuff in the beginning. But after a while, shouldn't she be doing the same? I mean, I'd say I initiate 2 out of every 3 dates, meaning she does about 1/3 the work, maybe less.
I know some of you guys are thinking her IL isn't that high, but we have great sex and are getting very close. She is a shy girl, but has come out of her shell a lot, so I'd think she wouldn't have a problem initiating stuff.
I almost wonder if I should stop complaining because part of me thinks perhaps I have it good this way. Only call her up when I want to do stuff, but in the beginning few months I think it's natural to try to gauge someone's IL, and to me, her not calling as much as I call her is either a sign of low IL on her part, or just shyness.
What do you guys think?