"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Who is more attractive? Person A or Person B?

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Person A, an average looking guy, is happy, thinks he looks like Brad Pitt and enjoys every conversation with everyone. He is funny, has goals in life and takes action to reach them in order to have a successful life.

Person B is a very good looking man who has only looks going for him.

Question: Is Person A more attractive to a woman than Person B just because of his mindset?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Depends on the woman and what she's looking for in a guy. I'd say most would go with guy A, since you can do pretty much anything except bore a woman. If you bore her, you're gone.
 

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DiegoSantori said:
Person A, an average looking guy, is happy, thinks he looks like Brad Pitt and enjoys every conversation with everyone. He is funny, has goals in life and takes action to reach them in order to have a successful life.

Person B is a very good looking man who has only looks going for him.

Question: Is Person A more attractive to a woman than Person B just because of his mindset?
Huh? What??? Wtf?

A loaded question.

women love intelligence. the lack of intelligence displayed in OPs question makes me want to point out what your questions lack - intelligence.

hell look at stephen hawking.. if that guy can get laid you have no excuse. or intelligence.
 

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Person B will get a lot of (low quality) women but loose them fairly quickly due to lack of confidence etc..

Person A won't get as much women but will benefit heavily in the long run by avoiding low quality women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Frayzer said:
Person B will get a lot of (low quality) women but loose them fairly quickly due to lack of confidence etc..

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Why do you assume Person B has lack of confidence? And that he gets low quality women?
 

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sylvester the cat said:
Why do you assume Person B has lack of confidence? And that he gets low quality women?
I would assume because of this:
Person B is a very good looking man who has only looks going for him.
 

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Frayzer said:
Person B will get a lot of (low quality) women but loose them fairly quickly due to lack of confidence etc..

Person A won't get as much women but will benefit heavily in the long run by avoiding low quality women.
I agree in your assessment about quality, and long run. However, I think Person A will trump Person B in the short term as well.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I agree in your assessment about quality, and long run. However, I think Person A will trump Person B in the short term as well.
Person C is better. Good looking and good at sex. Yesterday I stole a piece of chocolate from the kitchen but it spilled on the floor. I had to pay for the cake, the broken plate and a $50 fee for stealing. It sucks. It's so unfair.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I agree in your assessment about quality, and long run. However, I think Person A will trump Person B in the short term as well.
Person C is better. Good looking and good at sex.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I would assume because of this:


A man who only has looks to go on can be confident or not confident. Why are you assuming he lacks confidence?
 

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sylvester the cat said:
A man who only has looks to go on can be confident or not confident. Why are you assuming he lacks confidence?
Huh?

ONLY Looks. He didn't say looks and confidence.

Confidence is huge.
 

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Person A because of his conversation skills.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Huh?

ONLY Looks. He didn't say looks and confidence.

Confidence is huge.
Ok. Looks but no personality, education, confidence, dress sense, sense of humour etc.

Of course person A wins. Person B would be a mannequin.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I agree in your assessment about quality, and long run. However, I think Person A will trump Person B in the short term as well.
Agreed.

Which is why some of my friends who have height, and good genes in general, get a lot of women yet suffer tremendously when it comes to oneitis and long term relationships.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I see jacked bald headed guys who have nothing going on from them and have a felony conviction who are banging hot women. Goals mean nothing. Also you don't need to have this happy bubbly personality. You just need to be masculine and dominant.
 

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sylvester the cat said:
women love intelligence. the lack of intelligence displayed in OPs question makes me want to point out what your questions lack - intelligence.

hell look at stephen hawking.. if that guy can get laid you have no excuse. or intelligence.
I always thought Stephen Hawking got laid because of his confidence :rolleyes:

Stephen Hawking rolls into a bar.
"Hey, are those fingernails real or fake? Fake? Oh. Well, they're still nice, I guess. How about buying me a drink?".

Rolls up to other lasses:
"Hey, did you see those two girls fighting outside?"

"Settle a bet for me. Who do you think cheats more, men or women?
I only have a moment to talk, I have to get back to my friends..."
 
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