"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Who is doing Mall Game?

GreatHornedOwl

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My goodness. I just did a little holiday shopping and the mall was packed. I mean, tons of cuties walking around, most by THEMSELVES. And what I like about the mall as opposed to a bar is that it isn't a total sausagefest. Granted, I think your game needs to be a little stronger, but man this is the place to be cleaning up. No c0ck blocks, no other guys approaching.

What are some success rates you guys are having?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I agree. I personally would rather pick up a girl at the mall than at the bar. We all know how low quality the bar chicks are. In fact, I've pretty much stopped going to the bar because let's face it, those types of girls aren't exactly the kind that I want to take home to meet Mom.
 
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The mall is an excellent place to meet women. I've had a lot of success with cold approaches there. One of the things that works in your favor is that it's usually a pretty short interaction. The hard thing about the bar scene is that once you approach someone, you're kind of stuck there for 10 or 15 minutes with a drink in your hand. In the mall, I can grab 4 or 5 numbers in less than a half hour and I'm out of there. Pretty quick work.
 

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evansblue said:
The hard thing about the bar scene is that once you approach someone, you're kind of stuck there for 10 or 15 minutes with a drink in your hand. In the mall, I can grab 4 or 5 numbers in less than a half hour and I'm out of there. Pretty quick work.
EXACTLY. Plus, there's always a shortage of hot chicks at the bar but the mall's a different story.
 

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Malls are the best

I once had a girl invite me to a party at the mall she didn't even know me. She was pretty too and I got her # :yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you guys have luck with this? i'd figure it'd be a bad place to try. there are lots of women but i've found they are in the zone when it comes to shopping and what not
 

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IKO69 said:
you guys have luck with this? i'd figure it'd be a bad place to try. there are lots of women but i've found they are in the zone when it comes to shopping and what not
that's good, though. Their ***** shields will be down, whereas in a bar or club it's way easier to get blown out
 
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I do direct approaches in the mall (saying I found her very attractive/hot and I felt compelled to come over and talk) but almost always they walk away. Or I try opinion openers at the foodcourt but get ****blocked. I want to hear what works.
 

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I just started cold approaching in the mall. I got 2 rejections this week. One from a hot blonde that told me she already had a boyfriend. Another, was a sales girl at Sears that refused to give me her number after I approached and introduced myself to her.

Do any of you have a good routine for mall approaches? I've just been approaching and asking if they were single. If they are single I'll introduce myself and attempt a number close.
 

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Espi said:
I live in Tampa Bay, and International Mall is THE spot
Yes, nice place. I used to work in the 'International Plaza' office building next door.

I think that the guys who are having bad luck are being too obvious. The worst thing to do would be to stand in one place and walk up to every attractive woman that went buy with a canned line, like you're selling newspaper subscriptions. Women want to think you're the hero of the romantic comedy storyline that they're constantly spinning in their heads; that guy never goes to the mall to hit on women. It's always a chance encounter, sudden chemistry, and then one thing leads to another. Don't be obvious, and it lets them have that fantasy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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