"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who is doing Mall Game?

GreatHornedOwl

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My goodness. I just did a little holiday shopping and the mall was packed. I mean, tons of cuties walking around, most by THEMSELVES. And what I like about the mall as opposed to a bar is that it isn't a total sausagefest. Granted, I think your game needs to be a little stronger, but man this is the place to be cleaning up. No c0ck blocks, no other guys approaching.

What are some success rates you guys are having?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AllJackedUp

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I agree. I personally would rather pick up a girl at the mall than at the bar. We all know how low quality the bar chicks are. In fact, I've pretty much stopped going to the bar because let's face it, those types of girls aren't exactly the kind that I want to take home to meet Mom.
 
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The mall is an excellent place to meet women. I've had a lot of success with cold approaches there. One of the things that works in your favor is that it's usually a pretty short interaction. The hard thing about the bar scene is that once you approach someone, you're kind of stuck there for 10 or 15 minutes with a drink in your hand. In the mall, I can grab 4 or 5 numbers in less than a half hour and I'm out of there. Pretty quick work.
 

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evansblue said:
The hard thing about the bar scene is that once you approach someone, you're kind of stuck there for 10 or 15 minutes with a drink in your hand. In the mall, I can grab 4 or 5 numbers in less than a half hour and I'm out of there. Pretty quick work.
EXACTLY. Plus, there's always a shortage of hot chicks at the bar but the mall's a different story.
 

Vantagepoint34

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Malls are the best

I once had a girl invite me to a party at the mall she didn't even know me. She was pretty too and I got her # :yes:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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IKO69

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you guys have luck with this? i'd figure it'd be a bad place to try. there are lots of women but i've found they are in the zone when it comes to shopping and what not
 

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IKO69 said:
you guys have luck with this? i'd figure it'd be a bad place to try. there are lots of women but i've found they are in the zone when it comes to shopping and what not
that's good, though. Their ***** shields will be down, whereas in a bar or club it's way easier to get blown out
 
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I do direct approaches in the mall (saying I found her very attractive/hot and I felt compelled to come over and talk) but almost always they walk away. Or I try opinion openers at the foodcourt but get ****blocked. I want to hear what works.
 

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I just started cold approaching in the mall. I got 2 rejections this week. One from a hot blonde that told me she already had a boyfriend. Another, was a sales girl at Sears that refused to give me her number after I approached and introduced myself to her.

Do any of you have a good routine for mall approaches? I've just been approaching and asking if they were single. If they are single I'll introduce myself and attempt a number close.
 

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I live in Tampa Bay, and International Mall is THE spot
Yes, nice place. I used to work in the 'International Plaza' office building next door.

I think that the guys who are having bad luck are being too obvious. The worst thing to do would be to stand in one place and walk up to every attractive woman that went buy with a canned line, like you're selling newspaper subscriptions. Women want to think you're the hero of the romantic comedy storyline that they're constantly spinning in their heads; that guy never goes to the mall to hit on women. It's always a chance encounter, sudden chemistry, and then one thing leads to another. Don't be obvious, and it lets them have that fantasy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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