I'm looking for real opinions. Not fairy tale answers such as "to make your pee pee larger" or "to attract fortune and fame and girls and bananas and turkey and toe nails". I've been experimenting with them for some time now and I'm having difficulty distinguishing it's effects with the effects of everything else in my life. But one things are for sure: They do not alter behavior and they do not permanently alter feelings. But have they effected my attitude? The way I see things? F!@#&* I'm confused. F@#&* S!@&*# Crap I spend about an hour a day on affirmations and if what I think (barely) they are doing they are not doing then there goes several hundred hours of my time!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Who here knows the purpose of affirmations?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I've only discovered about affirmations from the book "How to be an Alpha Male" by John Alexander two weeks ago and I've started doing them recently. I've noticed slight improvements to my personality and game. Although nothing significant and groundbreaking, the fact that it's progressively helping me mold out my attitude has been encouraging. The key is commitment and the willingness to believe in your own words.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I always thought affirmations were a joke, but that is only my opinion, and I can't disparage what works for other guys. They are not for me, though.
Mike32ct
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Affirmations get into your subconscious mind and help brainwash you in a positive way. But they compete with your regular thoughts. You must do affirmations AND make sure your thinking is consistent with what you are trying to affirm. Let's say you affirmed 5 times today "I'm extremely confident around women.". Then later on that day you got rejected and thought to yourself 6 times "I'm a nervous loser around women.". Those negative thoughts would cancel out any benefit the affirmations gave you. That's why it's so hard to break out of negativity.
As for that The Secret or Law of Attraction stuff, I think it's bs. Affirming "I have a meatball grinder" is not going to make one appear on my front porch. I still need to call for takeout before one gets delivered LOL.
As for that The Secret or Law of Attraction stuff, I think it's bs. Affirming "I have a meatball grinder" is not going to make one appear on my front porch. I still need to call for takeout before one gets delivered LOL.
RandallLambert
Don Juan
Affirmations are useful, however AFFORmations are a hundred times more powerful. Instead of saying "I am excellent with women" you say "Why am I so excellent with women." Even if you're not, your brain looks for answers why this is the case, which occupies your subconscious, instead of it looking for reasons to reject the positive affirmation statement.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.