"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
who here is an 80's baby and went to high school in the 90:)
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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The 90s turned out to be one the worst decade with me because I believed I had allot of potential that was just wasted. The decade started strong where I graduated High School on the honour roll. The later half just fell of a cliff and there is not many great memories associated with that decade.
The early 2000s was just a fail recovery for the 90s with me. The OP referenced Mandy Moore. I viewed Walk to Remember, 2002, at an Oakville drive-through with my folks and it was the one and only time I went to a Drive through theater. My favorite song from Mandy Moore comes from that film:
Here she is just amazing. I've re-watched this movie at least twice since 2017 (bought a larger TV and played it on it for Nostalgia).
I missed a movie called "Princess Diaries", but I feel this song derived from that movie captures the early 2000s vibe as well:
I did have allot of Nostalgia for 2002 - 2004 simply because I visited theaters both independently (without my folks) and with a Chinese female friend I met at University and went out a number of places with her. I may also remember viewing Matrix Reloaded twice in the cinema on an empty stomach and then riding the newly built Sheppard subway, before re-watching it again, then going home and drinking half a bottle of wine to get the movie out of my head, lol!
Bought my first car in 1999. I went from a used 1987 second had car that was half-broken back then to a nice SUV today.
I see for my life that everything after 2000 to now is making the best out of a situation that I messed up with in the 90s, and the 90s was really the only chance I had to really have made something great out of my life.
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I remember people being much more down to earth and new things being new unlike now where everything looks the same.
Also thin girls with no tattoes or piercings.
The only thing I didnt like was the fact that you had to conform much more, it was very hard to get out of your peer group since there was no internet and no low cost airline company, also internet shopping was none and you still had to deal with shops even for tech.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
For the film buffs in the house, you'll recognize that this is the theatrical version with the Tangerine Dream soundtrack which most would agree is superior to the Goldsmith soundtrack.
Good Lord, this pale girls decked out in goth wear are super sexy....
that's nice...I have that sunshine and colours of blue sky now and friendliness but it was mostly like London for lack of sun and grey skies where I grew up.
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The 21st Century hasn't been pleasant. I was 18 when 9/11 happened. 9/11, the Great Recession, and COVID have defined the 21st Century. All bad events. It took me numerous years to recover from what happened to me in 2008 as a 25 year old.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
your alive here thats positive
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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