"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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who here is an 80's baby and went to high school in the 90:)

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I swear time went by fast would give my left nut to have it again
this video to me epitomizes the 90's
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The 90s was an awesome time to be a teen. The early 2000s was an awesome time to be a 20-something....

I used to do the goth thing in high school but i still was rocking the gangsta rap as well....

 

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Yup, I'm in the later part of the cohert. While I was technically born in the late 70s, I have no recollection of it, but the 80s is where I grew up. The best years were the 87-89 where there is allot of nostalgic memories around those years. One of the features of the time was I discovered a Super 8 mm camera in the basement, and started filming. I also discovered the 16mm projector and started borrowing films from the library to play on a larger screen at home. (at the time TVs were small cathode ray tubes and not as exciting an experience as watching films play on a mechanical projector).

The 90s turned out to be one the worst decade with me because I believed I had allot of potential that was just wasted. The decade started strong where I graduated High School on the honour roll. The later half just fell of a cliff and there is not many great memories associated with that decade.

The early 2000s was just a fail recovery for the 90s with me. The OP referenced Mandy Moore. I viewed Walk to Remember, 2002, at an Oakville drive-through with my folks and it was the one and only time I went to a Drive through theater. My favorite song from Mandy Moore comes from that film:


Here she is just amazing. I've re-watched this movie at least twice since 2017 (bought a larger TV and played it on it for Nostalgia).

I missed a movie called "Princess Diaries", but I feel this song derived from that movie captures the early 2000s vibe as well:


I did have allot of Nostalgia for 2002 - 2004 simply because I visited theaters both independently (without my folks) and with a Chinese female friend I met at University and went out a number of places with her. I may also remember viewing Matrix Reloaded twice in the cinema on an empty stomach and then riding the newly built Sheppard subway, before re-watching it again, then going home and drinking half a bottle of wine to get the movie out of my head, lol!

Bought my first car in 1999. I went from a used 1987 second had car that was half-broken back then to a nice SUV today.

I see for my life that everything after 2000 to now is making the best out of a situation that I messed up with in the 90s, and the 90s was really the only chance I had to really have made something great out of my life.
 

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Count me in, amazing time would have been great if I didnt have a crappy family.

I remember people being much more down to earth and new things being new unlike now where everything looks the same.

Also thin girls with no tattoes or piercings.

The only thing I didnt like was the fact that you had to conform much more, it was very hard to get out of your peer group since there was no internet and no low cost airline company, also internet shopping was none and you still had to deal with shops even for tech.
 

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For me, this song really captures the carefree spirit of the early 90s when i was a kid playing super nintendo and riding my bmx bike.....

 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When I was doing the goth thing in the 90s I recall how I was madly infatuated with Winnona Ryder's portrayal of Lydia Deetz in Beetlejuice..... man this girl was gorgeous

 

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Goth girls were my thing when I was a youngin', here's another one of my faves. This is Mia Sarah in the film "Legend". This is the scene where she gets seduced by Darkness....


For the film buffs in the house, you'll recognize that this is the theatrical version with the Tangerine Dream soundtrack which most would agree is superior to the Goldsmith soundtrack.

Good Lord, this pale girls decked out in goth wear are super sexy....

 

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I was in high school in the late 1990s and early 2000s. This song came out right when I was in high school. Song is from 1999.

The 21st Century hasn't been pleasant. I was 18 when 9/11 happened. 9/11, the Great Recession, and COVID have defined the 21st Century. All bad events. It took me numerous years to recover from what happened to me in 2008 as a 25 year old.
 

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it is not the strong who survive but the ones who adapt to change
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was in high school in the late 1990s and early 2000s. This song came out right when I was in high school. Song is from 1999.

The 21st Century hasn't been pleasant. I was 18 when 9/11 happened. 9/11, the Great Recession, and COVID have defined the 21st Century. All bad events. It took me numerous years to recover from what happened to me in 2008 as a 25 year old.
your alive here thats positive
 

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I'd only go back to 1992 if I could go knowing full well what I know now. It was not much fun at the time, but I could make it fun on a second try.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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reminds me of my 90s
 
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