"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
who here is an 80's baby and went to high school in the 90:)
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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The 90s turned out to be one the worst decade with me because I believed I had allot of potential that was just wasted. The decade started strong where I graduated High School on the honour roll. The later half just fell of a cliff and there is not many great memories associated with that decade.
The early 2000s was just a fail recovery for the 90s with me. The OP referenced Mandy Moore. I viewed Walk to Remember, 2002, at an Oakville drive-through with my folks and it was the one and only time I went to a Drive through theater. My favorite song from Mandy Moore comes from that film:
Here she is just amazing. I've re-watched this movie at least twice since 2017 (bought a larger TV and played it on it for Nostalgia).
I missed a movie called "Princess Diaries", but I feel this song derived from that movie captures the early 2000s vibe as well:
I did have allot of Nostalgia for 2002 - 2004 simply because I visited theaters both independently (without my folks) and with a Chinese female friend I met at University and went out a number of places with her. I may also remember viewing Matrix Reloaded twice in the cinema on an empty stomach and then riding the newly built Sheppard subway, before re-watching it again, then going home and drinking half a bottle of wine to get the movie out of my head, lol!
Bought my first car in 1999. I went from a used 1987 second had car that was half-broken back then to a nice SUV today.
I see for my life that everything after 2000 to now is making the best out of a situation that I messed up with in the 90s, and the 90s was really the only chance I had to really have made something great out of my life.
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I remember people being much more down to earth and new things being new unlike now where everything looks the same.
Also thin girls with no tattoes or piercings.
The only thing I didnt like was the fact that you had to conform much more, it was very hard to get out of your peer group since there was no internet and no low cost airline company, also internet shopping was none and you still had to deal with shops even for tech.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
For the film buffs in the house, you'll recognize that this is the theatrical version with the Tangerine Dream soundtrack which most would agree is superior to the Goldsmith soundtrack.
Good Lord, this pale girls decked out in goth wear are super sexy....
that's nice...I have that sunshine and colours of blue sky now and friendliness but it was mostly like London for lack of sun and grey skies where I grew up.
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The 21st Century hasn't been pleasant. I was 18 when 9/11 happened. 9/11, the Great Recession, and COVID have defined the 21st Century. All bad events. It took me numerous years to recover from what happened to me in 2008 as a 25 year old.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
your alive here thats positive
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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