Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This too, I actually like the video game reference. Our OP troll virgin can probably relate. But Jay is absolutely rightFatal Jay said:Its like you playing the first Mario game on the original nes, it's so easy, you know every enemy that pop up on the screen, you beat the game over and over, its easy to control.
Then you stop playing Mario, and play ninja gaiden for x-box 360, the graphics look good, the game is more challenging, so you don't know what enemies pop up, the bosses get tougher and tougher, you soon forget about Mario because ninja gaiden is more exciting and unpredictable.
Mario = nice guys
ninja gaiden = jerks
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
krs said:its unfair. i'm a nice guy but every time the females chose the jerk. because of this i'm a 38 year old virgin. it sucks. why do they do this?
i'm a man because i have a **** and its big. im not a troll. this is real. its so unfair that you called me a troll. it isn't funny. i buy her dinner and drinks whatever she wants and even got a few flowers. they don't appreciate it and every time i got flowers it creeped em out. wtf? im nice to them in conversation and don't disagree with them even if i do. im not to them and treat em like humans unlike jerks do. i respect them by not touching them because they say they like to wait. im straight not gay. i just want females not other males. what the hell are you talking about moden media, they show jerks getting too many females. nice guys deserve more. it sucks. its so unfair. im so nice. but i don't get squat.SpazzAttackk said:Because a man is meant to be a man. Normally when a man is acting like a 'jerk' he does something nice that no one else except the girl can see.
Put it this way, a mature woman is looking for a mentally stable man who can protect her and be assertive. Sometimes this makes the man look like a jerk but hes just doing what the primal DNA tells him to.
Most women dont want a fairie for a partner. You should step up and start being more assertive. Modern media (Movies books etc) make the perfect man look like a beta ***** boy faggot whos caring and touching (Which, theres nothing wrong with that as long as he has some sort of manly qualities) Bruno mars for example. Girls swoon over him, but a guy who actually sends a girl hes not official with flowers.. just makes him look like a bvtch pansy.
BTW: Obv troll.
this isn't a dumb video game. this is real. im 38 and haven't even had sex yet. im nice like im supposed to be but females always go for the jerk. its so unfair.Fatal Jay said:Its like you playing the first Mario game on the original nes, it's so easy, you know every enemy that pop up on the screen, you beat the game over and over, its easy to control.
Then you stop playing Mario, and play ninja gaiden for x-box 360, the graphics look good, the game is more challenging, so you don't know what enemies pop up, the bosses get tougher and tougher, you soon forget about Mario because ninja gaiden is more exciting and unpredictable.
Mario = nice guys
ninja gaiden = jerks
im not a troll and its never been answered. im a nice guy and treat females nicely. im so nice to them. im always nice. but they go for the jerk every time. its very very very very very very very very very very unfair.plate's_empty said:It's bad enough you post a question that gets answered on the first page of every Pick up manual and dating site out there. The least you could do is take the time to spell correctly.
It's obvious you're a troll, but to be a good troll, you should try to think of something more creative....and use proper grammar.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
its so unfair. im tall and have a big ****. im so nice and generous to the females and put so much time and effort and money in. then the next night they **** a jerk who doesn't even try. it sucks.Mike32ct said:The nice vs jerk is a smokescreen. It's about looks. It will always be about looks.
The jerk guy might be tall, althletic, muscular, tanned, have a hot face, chiseled jaw, broad shoulders, thick head of hair (or looks good shaved/buzzed), or some combination thereof.
Only being a weak pushover is a turn off to women.
Work out. Get a stylish hair cut.
A short, balding, fat, ugly guy acting like a jerk isn't likely to score.
A hot guy can be a sweetheart nice guy and still score.
your all jerks and deserve to be a virgins. im so nice to females yet im the virgin. its so unfair.SoSuave666 said:This is the dumbest sh!t I've ever read.
Nice guys don't get chicks because they don't trigger secksual desire in women. That's it. You're too passive; too unwilling; no ambition; lack determination; etc. You probably haven't aged well.
Stop pvssyfooting around and start taking what you want. You want that girl sitting over at the bar? Be decisive and unapologetic in your approach. A woman is acting like a little b!tch? Turn around and leave. When you get caught up in fairytale romances and videogame bullsh!t your mind will get clouded with doubt and fear because you're not acting within societies parameters.
Man the fvck up.
What are you trying to compensate for?krs said:i put so much time and effort and money in.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.