I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
steve: "Doug is like a fax machine, the paper goes in through the top, and if you don't attach a cover page, no one knows where your coming from. and theres a redial button and a memory, but i never use that"Originally posted by MyNameIsTaken
- Will Ferrell in "A Night at the Roxbury". A true ladies man!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That guy's hilarious! I just spent 2 hours reading through his random sex stories, and looking at pictures of his ex-gfs. The dude's a natural born pimp...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You need to stop taking things so seriously. I'm being really light here, told you who I think is cool, not who I exactly want to be like (since they are fictional).Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Anime, movies, "Friends", and video games?
These guys are your role models.
We as a society are collectively f*cked.
My fault, I apparently mis-read the thread's title. Apparently "role models" is pronounced "fictional video game people I think are cool".Originally posted by Nex
You need to stop taking things so seriously. I'm being really light here, told you who I think is cool, not who I exactly want to be like (since they are fictional).
Definitely, he's one of my role models. he's too cool for words... :woo:Originally posted by FriendlyFriend
i cant belive no one has mentioned a true don juan,
Johnny Depp, he is awesome
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I bear many, many similarities to Jesus Christ.Originally posted by rgeere
My role models are Jesus Christ and Giovanni Casanova ... Believe it or not they were both ladies men.
Not you, the origional one ...Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I bear many, many similarities to Jesus Christ.
Oh, please... you know I'm your role model. Me and Jesus.
ah him, actually i admire his personality and character. Better than johnny depp any day! completely forgot about farrelOriginally posted by TheCalmGuy
Well I think a very nice don juan role model is Collin Farrell he was voted as the most sexy man by People magazine. His cool, laid back and his a bad boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.