Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I find myself tonight in bed, watching extreme makeover.
I began thinking after reading bondjamesbond's posts. Why is it i have not been successful with women, im funny, look ok, confident, "cool" group of friends. Whats stoping me from picking up... Is it because im to much of a joke, and dont take many things seriously. Is it because i constantly make fun of weaker people, and my friends as they do to me as a joke ? I have so many friends. Not many are girls though. So i was looking threw what women want "confident,funny,good looking etc." i have most of these yet i dont get much at all. Why is this so. I dont talk to the HOT chicks even though there kinda in my group. I mainly talk to 2-3 girls around 7's. I dated a hot chick a few years back, didnt pash her cause i was to scared back then so im still never to pash or get any further. My friends are ****ing atm. Im known by my friends as the funny dude, who does stupid and yuck ****. Even though i am actually a clean person... Its just cause i like fart, and they stink but not much. So im wondering how i get out of this current stage im in, cause im wondering where im going wrong. Im going to schoolies with like 8 mates to byron bay. So please dudes, i need some help. Im not sure what i am on the looks department either. Im also an actually smart person and people know me to be a geek at maths in a funny way cause i do specialist maths. In math methods i know everything so i dont do much in that class. I do use the computer a bit to play games with my mates from school so im not like a total computer geek. I dont go out much at all, i duno why its just ppl dont invite me i guess.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yes ive read that article a few times. I still cant see where im going wrong. I dont put chicks on pedestools.. Im funny confident, and the leader of a few in my group. Girls still dont seem to be attracted, is it because im never REALLY serious ..
Or is it because of my reputation as being funny and yuck.
 

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I think it's maybe because you're waiting to see if they're attracted instead of just making a move. You seem like a guy chicks would go for.
 

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I was in your situation my freshman year. I was maybe even more of a DJ back then maybe because of my better rep., but I never ever got any play what-so-ever. .You have to grab your balls and go out into unknown territory! I lost my virginity to a pretty experianced woman who was ok looking, but she taught me so many skills that helped me through high school.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Your true about me waiting to see if girls like me.. But i read pooks post and he said chicks should be chasing me :O, and i aint seeing no chasing :/ atleast from what i can see. So you guys think i should just be more outgoing with girls aswell as my dude friends, not just my friends.
 
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