"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who´s your idol when it comes to being a man?

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Well, the title says everything...
My idol when it comes to being a man is Hulk Hogan, the wrestler. I think he´s confident, doesn´t take **** from anyone, always says exactly what he´s thinking and respects people in order to get respect. He also doesn´t care what people think of him.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ChrizZ said:
Well, the title says everything...
My idol when it comes to being a man is Hulk Hogan, the wrestler. I think he´s confident, doesn´t take **** from anyone, always says exactly what he´s thinking and respects people in order to get respect. He also doesn´t care what people think of him.
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He's also bright orange!

I reckon patrick batemen...christian bale in american psycho...apart from the killing n stuff!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Formula 1 driver Mark Webber, he has no fancy ideas about himself and just gets the job done.
 
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Josef Stalin, who racked up 30 million kills. No other man in this world has murdered more people than him.

Also that French chick who was really a guy was pretty manly. Look at her jawline!
 
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My idol when it comes to being a "man"? Machiavelli

I think...
 
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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Start practicing your agonized screams now, or else you won't hold a candle to your idol when you're burning in Hell too. I can make his out just barely when I put my ear to the ground.
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Well I'm an aethiest, so I'm going to hell anyway.
 
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Well I'm an aethiest, so I'm going to hell anyway.
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As am I.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mark "Chopper" Read.

He loved his beer.
He spoke his mind.
He loved his rugby.

Although he did kill 20 people, luckily only serving jail time for 1 of those murders, but they were all drug dealers. He always said, drug dealers are the scum of the earth.

He's a man's man alright.
 
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obviuosly. clint eastwood.(tough guy roles. nonesense anti hero, vintage man right there)

,james dean.(wierd but stylish he was way ahead of his time style wise)

,charles barkley.(no nonesense basketball player. that would fight for the ball till he can't anymore. even if the balls on the floor he goe's for it get down and dirty).

vin diesel( i like his built and voice tone)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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diplomatic_lies said:
Well I'm an aethiest, so I'm going to hell anyway.
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Am I the only one who sees the contradiction in this?
 
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Theodore Roosevelt - combined supreme masculinity with high intellect. Rather than become the effeminate intellectual or the mindless macho jock, he instead exemplified the best attributes of both. That is a real man.

Morality, will-power, courage, leadership, energy, accomplishment, toughness, intellect, passion, decisiveness, vision, and character.

We need the iron qualities that go with true manhood. We need the positive virtues of resolution, of courage, of indomitable will, of power to do without shrinking the rough work that must always be done.
 
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Sylvester Stallone

He was a nobody and went to Hollywood with the Rocky script, getting rejected over and over, but he kept perservering. He overcame a speech impediment, overcame critics who prejudged him as stupid, overcame amazing odds stacked against him, then went on to direct and act in one of the best films ever made - Rocky.

Then on the other hand, he is a guy who built and maintained an amazing physique through sheer dedication and allegedy steroid free. He gained weight for Copland, showing dedication to his acting career, then managed to get back in shape.

He has done some sh1t films, but it's his dedication to his goals that I admire. If you watch the original Rocky, you can see that he based the character heavily on himself.
 
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Something funny I got to point out is on a chick's most wanted list, none of this names would come up. ;)
 
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What I think is funnier, is that most of these men that we idolise are celebrities, not blood & steel heroes, or national leaders.

Where are the Caesars, Napoleons, Barbarossas, Rommels, and Francos?


EDIT: Okay, we got Roosevelt (well he was a leader of a democracy, not a dictator, but nobody's perfect), and William Wallace. I guess its something :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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