I am a white guy but I am really into black women (although I have never dated any) It just seems really difficult to do because of the barriers that are usually there. How do you approach black chicks if you are a white guy? It seems like the overwhelming majority of them are into black guys, unless they just don't get approached by white guys much.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
White Guys and Black Chicks
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
Here I am, a black dude giving advice to a white guy in picking up black chics. What's the world coming too haha
Anyway I'll just give examples of white dudes I was friends with that picked up on black women on the regular. I guess a good way to explain it is that they hung out with black folks on a regular basis so they were part of that whole world. You don't have to act like eminem or anything of that sort, if you do you get laughed at, but you have to kind of have a sense of what's going on, if that makes any sense. Those I knew pretty much had that going for them. Basically they were very ****y, alpha types that could hang when it came to the dozens, sh!t talking, stuff like that. Black women are much harsher when it comes to sh!t tests, so you have to have thick skin and just brush those off. Plus you gotta be agressive and persistent.
Also, you can't be the stereotypical goofy whide dude, i e Conan O'Brien, for example. Black women hate goofy guys of any race. Steve Urkel Carlton Banks types don't get any play either, and that's talking from personal experience. Basically, if your game is good and you're not goofy and you're in tune with the culture, you should do fine.
Anyway I'll just give examples of white dudes I was friends with that picked up on black women on the regular. I guess a good way to explain it is that they hung out with black folks on a regular basis so they were part of that whole world. You don't have to act like eminem or anything of that sort, if you do you get laughed at, but you have to kind of have a sense of what's going on, if that makes any sense. Those I knew pretty much had that going for them. Basically they were very ****y, alpha types that could hang when it came to the dozens, sh!t talking, stuff like that. Black women are much harsher when it comes to sh!t tests, so you have to have thick skin and just brush those off. Plus you gotta be agressive and persistent.
Also, you can't be the stereotypical goofy whide dude, i e Conan O'Brien, for example. Black women hate goofy guys of any race. Steve Urkel Carlton Banks types don't get any play either, and that's talking from personal experience. Basically, if your game is good and you're not goofy and you're in tune with the culture, you should do fine.
lol. i dont know why, but i am chinese, and black women always hit on me lol. i aint good lookin neither... i just get hit on a lot of black women, but i aint really into them, so i just always sleep on them, and dont let them become more than just friends with me... i aint racist, and i will be friends with anyone, but i have never been attracted to a black lady for some reason. but what i noticed is this, if you want to pick up a black girl, u gotta act casual, and they tend to be a little louder than other girls, so u gotta play along with that... u gotta play it cool, and pretend u dont want sex lol. i guess that is why i am pretty good with those types, because i dont get all quiet and stuff. i treat them like they guys...hahaha....
be a gentleman, but treat them like one of your boys, and stuff like that. good luck boy- advice from a ch!nk hahaha
be a gentleman, but treat them like one of your boys, and stuff like that. good luck boy- advice from a ch!nk hahaha
Player_Supreme
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Like the brotha said don't be no Erkle type. Just treat em like you would any other woman. don't put em on a pedistal and bow down to their mighty blackness.
Look for the type of sista's who only has white friends. She can be full black or half/and half. Listen to how they speak. If they sound like a white chick then your in luck.
These types are looking for white dudes and normally wouldn't even date their own race. They have fallen victim to the sterotyping of their own men. In their embarrasment over being black they try hard to be something that they ain't which is white.
This type is safe for you to date. A real sista will eat you alive and spit your lilly white arse back out.
Look for the type of sista's who only has white friends. She can be full black or half/and half. Listen to how they speak. If they sound like a white chick then your in luck.
These types are looking for white dudes and normally wouldn't even date their own race. They have fallen victim to the sterotyping of their own men. In their embarrasment over being black they try hard to be something that they ain't which is white.
This type is safe for you to date. A real sista will eat you alive and spit your lilly white arse back out.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
mrbrooklyn
Don Juan
LOL "real sista will spit you alive"
I was in club "rain" in vegas a few weeks ago. Some how me and my boys got into the VIP section. Throughout the night I was doing my thing chatting up all the white hoes. Well while the white girl I eventually went home with was in the bathroom, I decided to holla at these sistas that were standing around by themselves. I know they had seen me talkng to this white chick and I guess that pissed them off when I tried to talk to them. I didn't even try to spit any game on them, but they sure was ready to sh$T on me. These girls were from Crenshaw (los angeles). I told them that I lived in LA, but I am from NY. I got no respect. They proceeded to play out brooklyn. At this point the girl who I was chillin with came back and I just left the sistas.
The moral of this story is, when you are around real black women your game has to be tight. If you are floundering around being shy ant stuff or wait a while to try an talk to them they will play you out. If I was you I would stick to the "white washed black girls". You can find them at any hipster or super trendy bars in your hood. They are usually rolling with a few of their white girl friends.
I was in club "rain" in vegas a few weeks ago. Some how me and my boys got into the VIP section. Throughout the night I was doing my thing chatting up all the white hoes. Well while the white girl I eventually went home with was in the bathroom, I decided to holla at these sistas that were standing around by themselves. I know they had seen me talkng to this white chick and I guess that pissed them off when I tried to talk to them. I didn't even try to spit any game on them, but they sure was ready to sh$T on me. These girls were from Crenshaw (los angeles). I told them that I lived in LA, but I am from NY. I got no respect. They proceeded to play out brooklyn. At this point the girl who I was chillin with came back and I just left the sistas.
The moral of this story is, when you are around real black women your game has to be tight. If you are floundering around being shy ant stuff or wait a while to try an talk to them they will play you out. If I was you I would stick to the "white washed black girls". You can find them at any hipster or super trendy bars in your hood. They are usually rolling with a few of their white girl friends.