"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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studmuffinthesecond

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Hi, i was planning on asking this girl out but i cant make up ,my mind on were to take her for a first date. Its either

Dinner at a shopping plaza
Pros: We get to know each other more
Walk around after, hold hands
Strong pos. of kiss close
Cons: Might get kinda dull after a while

or.....

Bowling and quick dinner
Pros: action date good kino
lots of fun
pos.for neg hits
Cons: Might be to short of a date
less likely to hold hands kiss close....

what do you guys think? any feedback would be great thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jeffthechef

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first "dates" shouldn't be heavy and deep
you dont wnat her to know everything about you...so getting deep isn't good, IN THIS SENSE...of course physically deep is another case entirely

you;ll get as much kino as you and her allows...you create the amount of POTENTIAL kino...she'll decide how much of that potential you'll actually get

dont overanalyze the outing...dont prepare or think out how everythign will go
cause once something changes...it might fck up the rest of your mental script

just choose a place...and have fun...go into the outing without any preconceived notions/goals/plans...except. "HAVE FUN"

:D
 

CaptainJ

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Definitely the bowling.
 

eaglez1177

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I couldnt agree more with what Jeff said
 

colombiandude

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Yea i've come to realize that whenever i planned something out, it never worked out. sometimes the plans would even fall through. haha.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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