which path do i take?

[Azman]

Ok, this has been the deal-

At the end of the school year, this girl and i started to hang out-
she had a bf of 4 years, and so forth- and we hit it off right then and there..

got close to kissing, i told her a beautiful girl shouldn't get this close, she turned her head and said im not beautiful..

we told each other we liked each other.. and so forth... and then started talking more and more

i told her to stay wit hher bf, well.... in some time. later she dumped him

2 months went by i saw her, went to her house spent the weekend together - she dumped her bf, and he found out about me and started whining like crazy...

We talk about us a lot and then it went weird... she still hung out with her ex bf, and when i wasn't around she would take him with her... just b/c they lived closed and she wanted to be friends- it pissed me off, but im not the type of guy to say who she can and can not hang out - i figured he will ruin it himself..

well the other day, she told me she is confused and scared how quickly we got close, and she is scared and doubting it will be long - i reassured her that i think it will, but i can't promise her nothing- b/c who knows what will happen...

she told me she needs time to clear her head after her long 4 year relationship...

i like the girl and love the girl, she tells me how wonderful i am, and hwo great i am, how close we got, and how i helped her out through a lot, told me she never felt this way about someone els... but yet her ex bf is around and from what she tells me he makes her feel guilty about the whole thing..

people tell her she needs time to herself... i agree..... but i think withouth her ex....

but i will never tell her that

i am not oging to whine or ***** abuot it, nor tell her im upset about it - i just tell her dont worry about me, just make urself happy...


of course i did say - i might make some sacrifices wiating and might make me nto like you and she tells me then dont make any....

tells me i can see other peopel cuz she doesnt want to hold me back


she is not the ***** type who will hook up ith a lot of people
she told me she hasnt hooked up with anyone-

so what do i do... my friends say wait for her, but dont seem needy let her come to me

and they all say when she is ready she will come to me.....

is this what i should do - when i think this is a girl im going to marry?

or should i just look at the signs and say she is backing out- nicely and going back with him,,, i dont think that is the case

in her profile tells me the bestest,
under neath it says, we sit here in shade b/c a man planted it a long time ago

meaning the shade is her past - and we are underneathe it till she is ready to cut down the tree..

what ya gents thinks?

i told her when she told me that she was unsure about breaking up with her ex bf, go ahead and go back to him and find out if thats what she wants -

 

[frivolousz21]

someone help this poor soul!

 

[Azman]

poor soul?

Hey, I am not a poor soul - just want to see waht other guys would do....


I love the girl, but i am not whipped by her

i can give her space, but ill miss her a lot

but i dont want to be clouded *my judgement* b/c i like the girl, just want to see what other DJ will do in this situation...

I am not the type to go date other girls, when my heart is with one person,

and i am done with the whole random hook up scene-- I did that, and not my bag any more

 

[frivolousz21]

get some perspective.


you care for a girl who claimed to never be as close to a guy before as you....after a 4 yr relationship?

maybe if she was single for a yr or so..or never in that long of a deal it would be fine.

after 4 yrs she needs to decondition her mind for a while..for a long while that is.

probably will take her months if not yrs to let him go.

ur just setting urself up for wasted time and heartbreak.

 

[Azman]

hmm

Good point, so i should just drop off?

Or should i just keep it as friends for now?

 

[frivolousz21]

you can do whatever you want to do.

most important take ur mind off her and date other women.

dont be a 1 women man till you find a women who feels and loves you equally then you can be the guy you want to be with women.

over the last 9 months ive dated 10 to 12 girls..and finally met the one for me about 2 months ago

and trust me it was worth sorting threw the others


i had a fun time and great sex along the way to finding someone who I connect with on the deepest of levels!

good luck mate!


the european guys on here got me saying mate.:woo:

 

[Azman]

hey

Im cool with the dating scene, dated a lot in the past 10 months - maybe dont throw all the eggs in one basket...