Which one should I choose?

[Rihackto]

Hi. I've been here quite a long time without account but now I can't make a decision.
I'm 20 years old and there are two 18 years old girls.

First girl:
Cheated her boyfriend with me. All red flags, no father, drinks much, doesn't take responsibility for her actions, very immature. Currently my girlfriend, but many problems and no stability in relationship. However, sex is amazing, sometimes 5x per week and for hours. And she likes to do all crazy stuff like I do. Also she lives like 5 minutes from my home.

Second girl:
Comes from very good family. Very intelligent, many hobbies. A lot more mature. I think she is like 7.5/10 and the first girl is 7/10. She friendzoned me a year ago and I ghosted her. But girl 1 is on trip at the moment and we decided that it's ok to go out with other people during this time, so I decided to try my game on the second girl. Her interest level went very high. First date we made out a lot, but no sex. She was a little bit ill. Second date, she said she had her period. But same time she invites me everywhere, talks about future, wants to introduce me to her family, grabs my hand, kisses me first, very submissive, it's so easy to lead her. But, she lives 2 hours from my home. It's by train, so it's cheap and comfortable but still 2 hours. May be I go to university near her in September, so then it would be just 20 minutes.

So the problem is..
If I stay home and study here I can have amazing sex like 5 times per week. I know how much the first girl wants to f*ck everyday. But I have to deal with her daddy issues and play beta and tell her blue pill stuff. Also I don't see long term future with her, may be a year or two until she graduates.

If I choose the second girl, I would have more stable relationship but she is not really sexual. We have talked about it and she is not into it. She is more romantic and may be we are not sexually compatible. But my mind is so relaxed when I'm with her or talk with her, not in drama and stress that girl 1 makes.

So, what do you think? Which one is more worth my time?

 

[Reykhel]

Why do you have to fvcking choose...

You're twenty years of age, why are you projecting your ltr fantasies into the future??

Concentrate on your goals: Your education, your financial education, your game education, your health and
fitness, your personal development........think longterm with your personal goals.

Now, as far as these two girls go.......woman are fickle.....girls of 18 are nuts.......you think short term with your two plates.....

Do not think beyond the next hook up with these two girls. That's it. Hook up. Enjoy the moment. Focus on your life goals. Arrange another hook up for a few days or a week later.

You need space in between these hook ups. Space to breed. I can see you getting hooked on crazy puzzy.

You really need to rid yourself of this monogamy as a goal frame. You need to kill this long term relationship frame. Let them worry about any thoughts of a long term relationship. I repeat: monogamy and thoughts of ltr should be way off your radar. Postpone even thinking about if until another ten years at least.

Let these bytches kill each other for your exclusivity. Why would you offer it up for free.

 

[BeExcellent]

#2 but you have not been burned badly enough yet to appreciate her

You are 20. The girls are 18. Girl 1 is slvtty to be so freaky in bed at that age given all her other sad baggage.

Girl 2 is inexperienced and capable of bonding and following and of coming to appreciate sex as a means of bonding to you.

I find it wild how men here want pure or virgin or inexperienced women & then complain that they are not into sex. Of course they aren't...yet. They don't appreciate sex yet. Why not have such a woman appreciate & enjoy sex with...YOU. What an opportunity to lead them and mold them and create real intimacy.

But that means you have to lead, mold & teach them.

 

[BeExcellent]

Not the same men

Yes sometimes the same dudes. OP an example. He is dismissive of girl 2 thinking she doesn't like sex. She is too inexperienced to know whether or not she likes it and OP is too young/lacking in life experience to see the potential sexually under his tutoring with girl 2...in additional to her other positive attributes.

Now he's getting tons of sex with girl 1 so he may not care to invest the time to develop girl 2...but that's another discussion.

This is why girl 2 is a potential "one who got away" type girl.

 

[marmel75]

Hi. I've been here quite a long time without account but now I can't make a decision.
I'm 20 years old and there are two 18 years old girls.

First girl:
Cheated her boyfriend with me. All red flags, no father, drinks much, doesn't take responsibility for her actions, very immature. Currently my girlfriend, but many problems and no stability in relationship. However, sex is amazing, sometimes 5x per week and for hours. And she likes to do all crazy stuff like I do. Also she lives like 5 minutes from my home.

Second girl:
Comes from very good family. Very intelligent, many hobbies. A lot more mature. I think she is like 7.5/10 and the first girl is 7/10. She friendzoned me a year ago and I ghosted her. But girl 1 is on trip at the moment and we decided that it's ok to go out with other people during this time, so I decided to try my game on the second girl. Her interest level went very high. First date we made out a lot, but no sex. She was a little bit ill. Second date, she said she had her period. But same time she invites me everywhere, talks about future, wants to introduce me to her family, grabs my hand, kisses me first, very submissive, it's so easy to lead her. But, she lives 2 hours from my home. It's by train, so it's cheap and comfortable but still 2 hours. May be I go to university near her in September, so then it would be just 20 minutes.

So the problem is..
If I stay home and study here I can have amazing sex like 5 times per week. I know how much the first girl wants to f*ck everyday. But I have to deal with her daddy issues and play beta and tell her blue pill stuff. Also I don't see long term future with her, may be a year or two until she graduates.

If I choose the second girl, I would have more stable relationship but she is not really sexual. We have talked about it and she is not into it. She is more romantic and may be we are not sexually compatible. But my mind is so relaxed when I'm with her or talk with her, not in drama and stress that girl 1 makes.

So, what do you think? Which one is more worth my time?

Why do you think you have to choose one or the other?

 

[BeExcellent]

I agree @LARaiders85 but I see his wanting to choose as coming from a "sex with attached crazy" versus "good girl without wild sex" perspective. As though it's a binary choice without the ability to exert influence.

He is forward thinking toward his future.

I'm saying a.) he doesn't realize it isn't that simple, b.) he is dismissive of the good girl over the sex (he perceives it would be lacking) without realizing that is something he could influence, and c.) his age group is naturally going to contain virgin or lightly experienced women.

I do concur he may not be actively seeking that and also agree he may not understand the value of a less experienced girl.

But he's already noticing the differences in the quality of these girls as people, which I believe is why he is seeking guidance.

 

[17 shots]

Mess with both of them until it blows up in your face and they find out about each other... then let them decide what they wanna do about it

 

[Tenacity]

Why do you have to fvcking choose...

You're twenty years of age, why are you projecting your ltr fantasies into the future??

Concentrate on your goals: Your education, your financial education, your game education, your health and
fitness, your personal development........think longterm with your personal goals.

Now, as far as these two girls go.......woman are fickle.....girls of 18 are nuts.......you think short term with your two plates.....

Do not think beyond the next hook up with these two girls. That's it. Hook up. Enjoy the moment. Focus on your life goals. Arrange another hook up for a few days or a week later.

You need space in between these hook ups. Space to breed. I can see you getting hooked on crazy puzzy.

You really need to rid yourself of this monogamy as a goal frame. You need to kill this long term relationship frame. Let them worry about any thoughts of a long term relationship. I repeat: monogamy and thoughts of ltr should be way off your radar. Postpone even thinking about if until another ten years at least.

Let these bytches kill each other for your exclusivity. Why would you offer it up for free.

^^^ What he said.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Depends on what you value more. If you value constant freaky sex as much as having a free and relaxed mind, I'd ask if you have friends that you can chill with and talk to freely. If you do have some good bros like that, go with the girl who has sex with you a lot. If you don't, then I'd ask about whether or not you are confident in your ability to attract and have sex with other women. If you are confident in this aspect, go with girl #2. If not, stick with the first girl.

It's all about what you value and what you currently need/want more.

 

[Rihackto]

I feel like ltr is a lot less time-consuming. It takes so much time to spin plates. I need to focus on my studies and all other things.

The problem for me is time. Time is the most important thing for me.

The second girl takes a lot more time, even distance is greater between us. Her "sexual growth" may take also so much time. But she seems like a good girl and worth my time.

I always think in long term, I don't want to invest my time and resources without getting something back. And in short term the first girl has advantage, because I get what I want right now. But she also wants to do other non sexual things with me and I have to spend my time with her and there is always drama.

May be I do things to difficult for myself and should just enjoy moments and shouldn't think so much.

Edit: Interesting that I couldn't post when I tried to refer someone's name or post.

 

[Reykhel]

I feel like ltr is a lot less time-consuming. It takes so much time to spin plates. I need to focus on my studies and all other things.

The problem for me is time. Time is the most important thing for me.

The second girl takes a lot more time, even distance is greater between us. Her "sexual growth" may take also so much time. But she seems like a good girl and worth my time.

I always think in long term, I don't want to invest my time and resources without getting something back. And in short term the first girl has advantage, because I get what I want right now. But she also wants to do other non sexual things with me and I have to spend my time with her and there is always drama.

May be I do things to difficult for myself and should just enjoy moments and shouldn't think so much.

Edit: Interesting that I couldn't post when I tried to refer someone's name or post.

It will keep you a hell of a lot sharper if you playfully spin both of them and continue to flirt and occasionally approach other girls than if you settle into the warm comfortable slumber of a ltr with one of these girls.....

Limit your time with them. Why do you have to see them more than once a week? That frees up a lot of free time for you where you can concentrate on progressing your life (hint: The answer is probably because you are thirsty and already very necessitous.)

Also, you are thinking long term within someone else's boundary. You need to get this: all of your personal goals are within your circle of influence. Responsible success oriented people will work on things that are inside their circle of influence, while the victims of this world will moan and waste energy complaining about things that are outside their circle of control, such as blaming the government etc (and thus they have a ready excuse to remain stuck). The point here is that setting a long term goal within another person's boundary is setting yourself up for major disappointment. Her long term deceptions are outside your circle of control. Hence, woman are fickle creatures. You only have the present tense. Enjoy it. It may repeat itself over and over again. It may not. You don't want to hold too tight in an impermanent world. Don't crush the sparrow.

This thinking reveals holes in your boundaries. You don't know where your limits are.

You're assuming that both of these girls want a ltr with you. You are assuming that said ltr will last long term. This kind of thinking will set you up for a fall. A big one.

Ironically trying to force a ltr relationship with either of these two, will lower your value as a man. This doesn't mean that you cannot eventually desire a ltr, but to overtly express that desire and seek out exclusivity and commitment will drastically lower your value as a man. They want to pursue you. Allow them the pleasure of the chase.