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Senior Don Juan
This might have been discussed previously..share your tips please
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Christian Troy from Nip&Tuck.This might have been discussed previously..share your tips please
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Fred Savage's Kevin character in The Wonder Years would have been considered to have had one-itis for Winnie.Fred Savage's 12 y/o character in The Wonder Years. He never understood girls, and I could relate to that.
I think the Billy Madison character could have gotten some women. Billy Madison was supposed to be the 20 something party animal son of a Top 1% business executive. A good looking guy with money can seduce on family wealth alone. There are examples of that.Why do you think Adam Sandler always has hot wives and girlfriends in his films?
He's more realistic as someone who could seduce. This is a better example.Christian Troy from Nip&Tuck.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
There was one episode where he stomped over to her house, knocked on the door, and when she answered, he demanded to know if she liked him or not. "I don't know" is what she said. And he realized she was telling the truth, and that you can't make someone explain themselves when they don't understand their own self in the first place.Fred Savage's Kevin character in The Wonder Years would have been considered to have had one-itis for Winnie.
That show was set in the years 1968-1973 and the characters were in junior high and high school. They were Boomers too and being a beta male, young male Boomer wasn't as bad as being a beta male as a Millennial trying to date after 2000.
There's not much positive that a male could take away from that show about seduction. It was about as blue pill as it gets.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ha! I've always noticed that.Why do you think Adam Sandler always has hot wives and girlfriends in his films?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.