"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Which Emotions Did She Feel on your Date?

NeverFear

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Curiosity, uncertainty, surprise, the unexpected,
transparency, laughter, goofiness, anticipation,
security, safety, ?

If she didnt feel any of those, she doesnt remember the date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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And exactly how the hell am I gonna know what she felt I ain't there trying to work out how she feels dude, if I get a kiss or more at the end then the date was a success, as long as your having fun and she's vibing well to your presence then its going fine screw the over analyzing crap.
 

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Actually, this is one of the best questions I've seen asked in a really long time. Even though you can't tell specifically without her telling you, there are certain feeling that you should attempt to illicit from a woman. Who knows, if you're good enough, she may just tell you outright; yeah, it happens!

What works best for me include comfort, humor, passion, self reflection, and if there's a connection lust. Are these things easily instilled during one date, heck no! However, you shouldn't be surprised what could happen if the date extends into the wee hours of the morning or until dawn... ;)
 

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But I dont understand why your trying to work out what she's feeling, this isnt a contest to make her go through a series of emotions, if you plan your dates well and go out do fun interesting things you end up scoring, I've never sat there thinking about a plan where I'm gonna make her feel different moods depending on what I do.

Sounds a little lame to me results on what she actually does around me then what she feels is what I go for, if the actions are there the feelings must be.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Okay, seriously?

She seemed a bit spooked stepping onto a boat in high heels and a skirt that short. It gave me a chance to be the stabilizing force, to put her hand in mine and pull her aboard -- showing that I'm someone she can trust, and to show off my strength a little. She was impressed by the boat, enchanted by the sunset, she admitted she was turned on at the grease on my pants and the little bit of sweat (before I went below to change / clean up), and she really liked the wine. We laughed, we talked, we listened to some music, we watched the sunset. Her apprehensions melted away after about an hour and we f-cked like weasels.

In bed (okay, in bunk), she was very giving and very giggly, kind of shy. I think she might have been fat at one time, just b/c she was so self-conscious. She had an awesome body but she liked to keep covered up.

It was a good night. I'll see her again.
 
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