"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Which Anthony Robbins CD Set?

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I'm trying to buy some CDs but puzzled and overwhelmed by the amount of volume that are out there. I am after a total package on Money, Personal Improvement, leadership and healthy relationship.

I already read Richest Man in babylon, 48 laws of power, think and grow rich, what color is your parachute, rich dad poor dad, 7 habits, how to win friends n influence people and as a man thinketh. I'm planning to read The Prince next.

Which Tony Robbins books should I buy? Will I gain a lot by buying Tony Robbins CDs given that I already read all those books? Only someone who listened to the CDs + read all the above books would be able to comment :)

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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How's all the stuff that you've read already been working for 'ya?
 

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Before hunking down cash, may I suggest you get a copy of Penn & Teller's show Bullsh*t! and watch the episode called "Self-Helpless" (and it's free if you bit torrent it). They debunk Tony Robbins and other self-help gurus. For Robbins in particular, the significance of his walk on fire act is a parlor trick; no mind over matter required, anyone can easily and painlessly walk over a pit of burning coals so long as you keep on walking. For him and other gurus at large, for what Penn would eloquently call "...and then there's this asswhole", they scam people by having them pay often fortunes to "learn" something which is already there inside them. Some people become addicted to self-help and go from guru to guru, spending fortunes, without ever making "progress", real or perceived.

There's also the equally great episode of Bullsh*t! called "Life Coaches" which is basically the same problem.

I agree with Francisco.
 

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I don't see how that "debunks" Tony Robbins.
It's an achievable task which most people uneducated people of the situation would deem impossible, or at least, very very painful.
The relation I see between the firewalk and other everyday situations is that goals such as achieving a level of income are just as achievable as walking across fire, given that your mind works in a way to support you.
Sure, it's already inside them, just like the potential ability to invent something radical.
If Edison hadn't invented the lightbulb, I'm sure somewhere along the line another individual or company would have, but it's a lot easier just to follow a preset example for success.
 

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debunk? Hmmm... Then why are you at this website? I mean this is a self-improvement website and if it is truely debunk, then why are you here?

Most people need a bit of nurturing to bring out there best selves.

I don't mean to be an @$$ but c'mon, this is basically the same thing without the guys that make millions and millions of dollars. Plus, I plan on going into this profession.

and about something already been inside. Yes, lets go with that for a second.

Alright, if you have never used that inner strength inside of you before, do you know that it is there?

If you have never heard anyone say that it could be done, do you believe that it could be done only by the extrordinary people of this world?

If you don't know how to use that inner strength inside of you, would you use it?

Do you believe that if a person never concieved of him or her self doing something incredible, then how do you expect them to use their own inner strength?

Gee, I don't know. I don't believe that if anyone never used it before, than how could someone know how.

this is the same type of thing as if a person has never heard of, seen, or wanted to know what a zebra is, than do you think that a person would know what a zebra is?

That is the point of a self-improvement guru, they bring out something that someone has never heard or seen before and say, "hey, you can do this too." Just like this website, which has the same basic principles.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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