"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Which affected your appeal more after your 30s, hair or physique?

Hair or Physique after your 30s

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The Duke

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I was dating when my hair was receeding after I shaved it bald and never look back. There is a segment of females that find guys with shaved bald heads attractive. I didn't realize it but it opened some doors I never knew existed. You probably need to have a nice head shape. Women always tell me I look like a cop and I know cops make panties wet. When I inquire about it they always say it's how you carry yourself and the bald head.

I'm here to say, I definitely don't struggle because I have no hair. Don't make it something it's not. Be honest with yourself.

Improving my physique later on really helped me out. That opened even more doors.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not in my experience. Unless you've been on both ends of the spectrum, your opinion is meaningless because you are only guessing.

I’m not guessing; I’m looking at data. Can you provide any evidence that being bald has no detrimental impact? Or are you merely basing it on your own anecdotal experience?
 

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I’m not guessing; I’m looking at data. Can you provide any evidence that being bald has no detrimental impact? Or are you merely basing it on your own anecdotal experience?
How's your hair? Full head of hair? Partial Balding? Bald?

My evidence is all anecdotal. Sorry but thats all I got, no shame there. I know its cool to dismiss that kind.

As a bald guy, I've done a lot of dating over the years and I'd say there are less than 30% of the female population that will not date a bald guy. The rest have told me it doesn't matter to them, or they find it really hot. I'm not worried about the 30% that won't. 7 out of 10 will, and that works for me. All I need is 1 anyways.

What I have found to be true about women(anecdotal again) was also mentioned in the article:

Apparently, learning more about the diverse personality aspects of a bald man remarkably increases his social attractiveness. This “bald but nice” finding might encourage balding men to accept their condition rather than to struggle against it”.

If you lack confidence and don't connect well with women, then yeah you better have a full head of hair. But if you are like me and @BackInTheGame78 then its not a concern.

What women say, and what they actually end up doing can be two different things. Thats anecdotal too, but its a universally accepted truth that is very accurate.

You think women would tell the truth about how many guys they've fuhked for a study? I don't.
 

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I was dating when my hair was receeding after I shaved it bald and never look back. There is a segment of females that find guys with shaved bald heads attractive. I didn't realize it but it opened some doors I never knew existed. You probably need to have a nice head shape. Women always tell me I look like a cop and I know cops make panties wet. When I inquire about it they always say it's how you carry yourself and the bald head.

I'm here to say, I definitely don't struggle because I have no hair. Don't make it something it's not. Be honest with yourself.

Improving my physique later on really helped me out. That opened even more doors.
How bald were you when you decided to go full shaved head? I’ve lost some hair and am considering just completely shaving my whole head. I still have significant hair in front and sides but getting a bald spot on top back of my head.

And for everyone reading - no it hasn’t impacted me getting laid.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Neither - I've been just as short throughout. :mad::mad:
 

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Not in my experience. Unless you've been on both ends of the spectrum, your opinion is meaningless because you are only guessing.
The difference in IOIs I get from women when I have bad hair/bad haircuts vs good hair/good haircuts is staggering...even more noticeable than the differences in how I dress or my physique.

Now, you can say that being bald is different from having bad hair...but I ultimately I think it's accurate to say that most men cannot pull off a shaved head. Furthermore I refuse to believe having a full head of hair would not be an advantage for 99% of men.

Granted you could say all of this is actually moot and how you carry yourself is what matters most, and while that's true, that doesn't mean everything else still doesn't matter.

A confident dwarf probably ain't gonna do as well as a nervous 6'3 uber Chad model lets just be real.
 
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For guys that have shaved their heads and gotten good results, that’s great.

And I understand the “All or nothing” (full hair or shaved) school of thought a lot of guys on here recommend.

But there are some guys that might look better (or perhaps less worse lol) with some hair on their heads, even if they are balding. It could be a buzz or something otherwise short.

Just wanted to add some nuance to the conversation because there are no 100% rules on looks/style.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I’m also a “3” — but will say I am getting very thin up top in addition to the bald spots. I keep thinking of pulling the trigger but everyone I know basically says not to. Not sure if they’re just used to seeing me a certain way and don’t want to deal with the shock. I’m getting closer to being ready to embrace it.
 

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For guys that have shaved their heads and gotten good results, that’s great.

And I understand the “All or nothing” (full hair or shaved) school of thought a lot of guys on here recommend.

But there are some guys that might look better (or perhaps less worse lol) with some hair on their heads, even if they are balding. It could be a buzz or something otherwisshort.

Just wanted to add some nuance to the conversation because there are no 100% rules on looks/style.
plus, this whole shaved head + big beard look is super played out now. in fact I'm convinced 90% of gen-x men sport this look now. it's really not that original. if hair doesn't matter, why not do something funny and unique like a skullet with a mustache?
 

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plus, this whole shaved head + big beard look is super played out now. in fact I'm convinced 90% of gen-x men sport this look now. it's really not that original. if hair doesn't matter, why not do something funny and unique like a skullet with a mustache?
I’m an X-er, and I see that a lot.

I think of it like “If hair doesn’t matter, why is a beard required to ‘balance the look’?”
 

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I don't get all that many comments about my hair/physique. Maybe 10% each. However. 80% comments I get are on face.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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