Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Which affected your appeal more after your 30s, hair or physique?

Hair or Physique after your 30s

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The Duke

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I was dating when my hair was receeding after I shaved it bald and never look back. There is a segment of females that find guys with shaved bald heads attractive. I didn't realize it but it opened some doors I never knew existed. You probably need to have a nice head shape. Women always tell me I look like a cop and I know cops make panties wet. When I inquire about it they always say it's how you carry yourself and the bald head.

I'm here to say, I definitely don't struggle because I have no hair. Don't make it something it's not. Be honest with yourself.

Improving my physique later on really helped me out. That opened even more doors.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Not in my experience. Unless you've been on both ends of the spectrum, your opinion is meaningless because you are only guessing.

I’m not guessing; I’m looking at data. Can you provide any evidence that being bald has no detrimental impact? Or are you merely basing it on your own anecdotal experience?
 

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I’m not guessing; I’m looking at data. Can you provide any evidence that being bald has no detrimental impact? Or are you merely basing it on your own anecdotal experience?
How's your hair? Full head of hair? Partial Balding? Bald?

My evidence is all anecdotal. Sorry but thats all I got, no shame there. I know its cool to dismiss that kind.

As a bald guy, I've done a lot of dating over the years and I'd say there are less than 30% of the female population that will not date a bald guy. The rest have told me it doesn't matter to them, or they find it really hot. I'm not worried about the 30% that won't. 7 out of 10 will, and that works for me. All I need is 1 anyways.

What I have found to be true about women(anecdotal again) was also mentioned in the article:

Apparently, learning more about the diverse personality aspects of a bald man remarkably increases his social attractiveness. This “bald but nice” finding might encourage balding men to accept their condition rather than to struggle against it”.

If you lack confidence and don't connect well with women, then yeah you better have a full head of hair. But if you are like me and @BackInTheGame78 then its not a concern.

What women say, and what they actually end up doing can be two different things. Thats anecdotal too, but its a universally accepted truth that is very accurate.

You think women would tell the truth about how many guys they've fuhked for a study? I don't.
 

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I was dating when my hair was receeding after I shaved it bald and never look back. There is a segment of females that find guys with shaved bald heads attractive. I didn't realize it but it opened some doors I never knew existed. You probably need to have a nice head shape. Women always tell me I look like a cop and I know cops make panties wet. When I inquire about it they always say it's how you carry yourself and the bald head.

I'm here to say, I definitely don't struggle because I have no hair. Don't make it something it's not. Be honest with yourself.

Improving my physique later on really helped me out. That opened even more doors.
How bald were you when you decided to go full shaved head? I’ve lost some hair and am considering just completely shaving my whole head. I still have significant hair in front and sides but getting a bald spot on top back of my head.

And for everyone reading - no it hasn’t impacted me getting laid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Neither - I've been just as short throughout. :mad::mad:
 

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Not in my experience. Unless you've been on both ends of the spectrum, your opinion is meaningless because you are only guessing.
The difference in IOIs I get from women when I have bad hair/bad haircuts vs good hair/good haircuts is staggering...even more noticeable than the differences in how I dress or my physique.

Now, you can say that being bald is different from having bad hair...but I ultimately I think it's accurate to say that most men cannot pull off a shaved head. Furthermore I refuse to believe having a full head of hair would not be an advantage for 99% of men.

Granted you could say all of this is actually moot and how you carry yourself is what matters most, and while that's true, that doesn't mean everything else still doesn't matter.

A confident dwarf probably ain't gonna do as well as a nervous 6'3 uber Chad model lets just be real.
 
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For guys that have shaved their heads and gotten good results, that’s great.

And I understand the “All or nothing” (full hair or shaved) school of thought a lot of guys on here recommend.

But there are some guys that might look better (or perhaps less worse lol) with some hair on their heads, even if they are balding. It could be a buzz or something otherwise short.

Just wanted to add some nuance to the conversation because there are no 100% rules on looks/style.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I’m also a “3” — but will say I am getting very thin up top in addition to the bald spots. I keep thinking of pulling the trigger but everyone I know basically says not to. Not sure if they’re just used to seeing me a certain way and don’t want to deal with the shock. I’m getting closer to being ready to embrace it.
 

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For guys that have shaved their heads and gotten good results, that’s great.

And I understand the “All or nothing” (full hair or shaved) school of thought a lot of guys on here recommend.

But there are some guys that might look better (or perhaps less worse lol) with some hair on their heads, even if they are balding. It could be a buzz or something otherwisshort.

Just wanted to add some nuance to the conversation because there are no 100% rules on looks/style.
plus, this whole shaved head + big beard look is super played out now. in fact I'm convinced 90% of gen-x men sport this look now. it's really not that original. if hair doesn't matter, why not do something funny and unique like a skullet with a mustache?
 

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plus, this whole shaved head + big beard look is super played out now. in fact I'm convinced 90% of gen-x men sport this look now. it's really not that original. if hair doesn't matter, why not do something funny and unique like a skullet with a mustache?
I’m an X-er, and I see that a lot.

I think of it like “If hair doesn’t matter, why is a beard required to ‘balance the look’?”
 

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I don't get all that many comments about my hair/physique. Maybe 10% each. However. 80% comments I get are on face.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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