"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I think I've got attraction down for now, and have a few girls that I can prob go for. But I dunno where to bring it. Most of them I don't chill with their social circles often besides school, so i can't just be chillin and have an opportunity fall in my lap. I live in a semi-small town, with not much in the way of entertainment besides weed and booze. There's stuff to do a bit away, but I don't have a car/license as I'm 15, 16 in December.

So, ideas I got.
-Get girl and girls friends to chill with me and a friend at his place/movie, find a way to isolate, one im leaning toward.
-Jus invite her over, problem is what to do? Done this before and ended up hooking up while watching a movie, but could be mad wierd, prob not gonna do this unless she drops a hint of something she likes we could do over here
-Go to movies, problem is as I've said no car! So my mother would probably have to drive or we'd meet up there. First could be mad awkward for the drive, second could not work out.

So what do you guys do to create an opportunity to close? In the past opportunites have pretty much fallen into my lap without active action on my part, besides that one where I invited her to my place for a movie.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Iv always favored having the girl come to your own house. But only if the parents give you enough privacy. I thought my parents gave me enough privacy until my dad walked in my room without knocking... now I dont have girls over often.

I just like how its your home turf and you will have the "home" advantage. You have a couch right there and also your bedroom if you feel the need.


I always just said "hey I rented (any new movie that just came out), you should come over and watch it with me."
It was simple and sounds innocent enough to most girls.
 

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Thanks for the help 5-1

In case it helps anyone, I've thought of something I can do. Ice skating! Now just to find out what rink is closest, organize getting there, and of course asking someone.
 
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