"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Where would you like to be in 5 years?

Gangster Of Love

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Where would I like to be in 5 years?

To quote the great, late Mitch Headberg:

"Celebrating the 5th year anniversary of you asking me this question."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
Where would I like to be in 5 years?

To quote the great, late Mitch Headberg:

"Celebrating the 5th year anniversary of you asking me this question."
thats not funny if said in humour, and really sad if theres any seriousness attached :(
 

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I'd like to either have my own architecture firm up and running or be working on a masters degree. I haven't decided yet.
 

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Originally posted by splinterkb
I'd like to either have my own architecture firm up and running or be working on a masters degree. I haven't decided yet.
u gotta decide or u cant have either.
 

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I will be in my second year of studies in UCLA, and I'll record an album ( :cool: ) that will become the best seling album of all time ( :D ), and offer me a little $7,000,000 villa in Malibu Colony Road ^^'
Yeah, great dreams :p I hope they'll become real ^^
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RaWBLooD

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Originally posted by Dias
I will be in my second year of studies in UCLA, and I'll record an album ( :cool: ) that will become the best seling album of all time ( :D ), and offer me a little $7,000,000 villa in Malibu Colony Road ^^'
Yeah, great dreams :p I hope they'll become real ^^
be realistic, and know they will become real.
 

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Kicking it in Bali. Playing guitar under an umbrella, whistling the theme from Gilligan's Island, having a girl bring the straw of my drink within my mouth's reach, not picking up the phone cause the caller ID says "Angelina Jolie" and I've had it with her. And when I'm done sipping my drink and playing my tune, I'll put some Hendrix on my latest generation ipod, and then out of nowhere I'll take out a box with a big ass red bottom, which I'll push: France will be destroyed instantaneously. I will then call my assistant and tell him to put all the Dom Perignon champagne from my warehouse on ebay, starting bid $10,000.


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Originally posted by RaWBLooD
thats not funny if said in humour, and really sad if theres any seriousness attached :(
Well, excuse me Mr. Serious; actually, it was pretty funny. It was a joke making fun of generic questions. Nevermind...
 

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Surf every weekend,

with a business ticking over,

girls I can see with no marriage rubbish in sight,

kids of friends to play with without the responsibility


Nearly there.
 

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Either finishing my master's in engineering, or starting my PhD is something.

By then I hope to have learned to play one or more markets well enough to have plenty of money on the side. I might have a business, most likely web based that I can easily manage. If nothing else, I might be developing some software on the side. I will most likely be doing a lot of work in engineering, either to finish my degree or for the sake of designing something.

Romantically, I can't see marriage happening before I am 30. I will have too much to do.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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johnmich

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In 5 years time i would want to be with my friends. When everyone goes off to different uni's we will be split apart.
Everything i have done has been with my own group of friends so i would want them to be there.
If possible mariah carey and britney spears will also be there.
Jobwise i am not sure. I am just hoping to get a good job which pays around half a mil / year
i would like to get revenge on all who p*ssd me off earlier in life.
:D
 

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i know i will be playing professional soccer for arsenal
 

S-lemond

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or i wanna be a lawyer
 

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I will be moving up the ladder in some big software engineering firm. I've only got 2 more years to go before I finish my degree.

Hopefully i'll be living in Europe, sipping coffee in some cafe in Paris, or chilling in Dublin.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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5 years from now:

My school will be a success.

I will make no less than 150k/yr

I'll have at the very least 500k in assets (real estate)

I will have reached enlightenment.

Healthier and buffer

w/ mad GAME

and a group of globetrotting friends m/f
 

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I have most of what I want already (I definitely have everything I NEED), but within five years I would like to-

1. Be traveling the world several months out of each year, minimum

2. Have a multi-million dollar net worth that generates several hundred thousand dollars per year in 100% PASSIVE cash flow

3. A 4000 sq ft. (any more is overkill, IMO) house on the water, possibly various vacation condos throughout the world...

4. A Bentley GT in the garage

Oh yea, and I will probably be getting close to the age that I want to settle down, so I will start searching eastern Europe for a blue or green eyed 25 yr. old brunette super model look alike to give birth to my genetically superiour superbabies when I finally get tired of traveling
 

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- Have at least two active, succesful, buissinesses (sp?). Maybe a hair salon, and a small restaurant, or some kind of agency.

-Drive a kick ass convertible.


Women are soooo easy. Building wealth from pratically scratch. THAT is hard.

I was thinking about the following quote I thought of:

You can't get depressed if you live in the future. ... something by those lines.
 

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my life ambition is to retire by age 30-33 (ie be making around $10K-$15K tax-free from re rental properties, per month), so everything 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 (and 6+) years from now will be dedicated to achieving that. it's not only possible, i'll actually probably beat that figure and over-achieve. in 5 years though, i'd like to have established at least a fourth to a third of that monthly income.
 

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Hopefully done with college.

Either being a Rescue Swimmer in the USCG, or working as an engineer for some motorcycle company.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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