"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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where was your last successful cold approachthat was not in a bar, club, party??

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where was your last successful cold approachthat was not in a bar, club, party? and by SUCCESSFUL i mean you got an ltr,fb, or lay out of it.

I'm just wondering because I want to practice my cold approach game outside of those usual places.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A - Apartment pool.
B - Work.
C- Work.
D - House party.
E - Halloween party.
F - House party.
G - Waitress.
H - Blind date.
I - Pizza delivery girl.
J - Girl on Ferry.
K - Girl from airport during hotel layover.
L - House party.
M - Friend of friend.
N. - Hitchhiker.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BPH said:
Are you trying to learn something from this? Like should I elaborate?
What I'm really trying to do is find the most common places for successful cold approaching.

you can post your field report from that cold approach as a good example to learn from
 

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bigneil said:
August 2010 - Saw her at CVS, then again at apartment pool.
September 2008 - Met her at work.
October 2006 - Met her at work.
What kind of Work? Was she a coworker/customer/client?
 

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CostaDeSol said:
What I'm really trying to do is find the most common places for successful cold approaching.

you can post your field report from that cold approach as a good example to learn from
Well the mall is alright, but that's more for people my age and younger. But this girl was alone and dressed up exceptionally nice. Looked sexy and was sitting by herself at one of the tables in the food court so I went by to say hello.

Granted it was about a month from the time I number closed her soon after meeting, but what happened happened.
 

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Well the mall is alright, but that's more for people my age and younger.
Thats what I thought, especially since the last time I went, the place was filled with jailbait.

I just realized though, that i can go around noon on weekdays, when most of the under 18 crowd should be in school.
 

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I got a lot of pvssy at my old job, but that was bar work, so I don't know if that counts? Cold approaches were covered by serving drinks, its a must for any of you younger DJ's.
Helps to build confidence, cos a lot of thes chicks will hit on you, and you notice signals more easily from her ones that will be susceptible to a cheeky smile/ comment/ number close.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Purefilth said:
Cold approaches were covered by serving drinks
That my friend is like shooting fish in a barrel. Being in a position like club security
DJ (the guy playing tunes) or bartender is almost like having the puzzy handed to you.

Aspiring DJ's take note.
Take a class and get a Saturday night shift at a hot club
 

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K2000kidd said:
That my friend is like shooting fish in a barrel. Being in a position like club security
DJ (the guy playing tunes) or bartender is almost like having the puzzy handed to you.

Aspiring DJ's take note.
Take a class and get a Saturday night shift at a hot club
Is there an age requirement or something? I'd love to do this at college.
 

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I would imagine 21 since you're serving alcohol. But it could vary by state
and 18 might still work if you were just doing security/DJ.

I almost forgot to mention, the guy at the door likely gets a ton of azz too
If you're the guy that lets them in the club to begin with women will often
throw uhmm ..."favors" your way if you smell what the rock is cookin'
 
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