"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Where to take this girl?

TheWanderer

Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2004
Messages
77
Reaction score
0
Age
39
So, I'm prolly gonna go out again with that girl I talked about in my other post this weekend.......2nd date. Now, I didn't kiss her last time, but I'm pretty sure she's feelin me. Why? Well, I haven't talked to her much but this is what she's said after our date that leads me to beleive I'm in:

- Me: We should go out again this weekend, think about when dave (me) time's gonna be
her: well, if it was up to me, it'd be dave time right now...

- her: my day was ok
me: only ok? how come?
her: cus i didnt see you today....

lol, well, either I'm in or she's the biggest tease ever.

So, I'm wondering about what to do with her this weekend. If everything goes as I plan, we should have from 3-11 or 12 to chill, so I was thinking about going to a waterpark first, good place to be playful and get heavy kino.

But then, well, I wanna go somewhere things can happen.....my basement is great since I have a big couch and a big tv, but knowing my parents, they'll come downstairs constantly to check on me. So, do any of you guys have any ideas of where we could go or what to do so things start happening? Because there's no way Im letting this date go by without making out with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Jerky Boi

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 10, 2004
Messages
551
Reaction score
0
Waterpark's a great place. I wish I had one in my town, haha. Maybe her place after?
 

splinterkb

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2004
Messages
750
Reaction score
4
Age
40
Location
Minnesota
Miniputt. You can "show" her how to putt.
 

TheWanderer

Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2004
Messages
77
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Prolly won't happen, good idea, but we went mini golfing last week. Anyways, I'll be leaving home to pick her up in about an hour. Wooh, I'm pumped, ready to get my game on, lol. Anyways, I'm thinking ice cream, Ice Skating, dinner, and then we'll come to my place and watch a movie (parents won't be home, hell yeah!).

Anyways fellas, wish me luck, I'm going for a kiss today, so hopefully it'll turn out good and we'll get even farther......here I go baby!
 

JSH

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 20, 2003
Messages
1,088
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
London
good luck
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Top