"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where to start?

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Hi everyone,

I am new to this, so I wanted to ask for your help. There is so much information on this site that I am not sure where to start. Can someone give me a link or two (from this site) that I can start reading? Maybe you can even give me the link to the articles that helped you most. I know that I am asking for too much (having to hunt down the links can be a *****) and I thank you for your help.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Titus

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With a warning.

This place is not as "cool" and non-mental threatening as it may seem. Use whatever you find here with great care. It may do you more damage then good.

And i'm not kidding around.

G'luck!
 
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Ojete

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You should start reading some tips in the main page of this site, and then the newbie sticky post in this forum, the one with "All members read, especially the new ones" or something like that. Good luck ;)
 
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Ice Cold

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Originally posted by Titus
This place is not as "cool" and non-mental threatening as it may seem. Use whatever you find here with great care. It may do you more damage then good.
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Yeah - it sucks you in and never lets go. Run while you can!

RUN FORREST, RUN!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MindOverMatter

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I'd start by reading the main articles/tips on the website, plus the doc love / redfieild articles. those are a fountain of useful knowledge. most of them aren't technical, but they do a really good job of introducing a newcomer to the DJ philosophies. After you're done with those, I'd read the bible, lots of technical stuff there.
 
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Titus

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Originally posted by Ice Cold
Yeah - it sucks you in and never lets go. Run while you can!

RUN FORREST, RUN!
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I am NOT kidding.

If you don't know what i am talking about even after 1422 posts, tough luck.
 
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MetalFortress

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Originally posted by shahgols
Hi everyone,

I am new to this, so I wanted to ask for your help. There is so much information on this site that I am not sure where to start. Can someone give me a link or two (from this site) that I can start reading? Maybe you can even give me the link to the articles that helped you most. I know that I am asking for too much (having to hunt down the links can be a *****) and I thank you for your help.
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Find the link to the post "Be a Man!" by Pook.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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AMF

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Yeah. You only need this site if youre NOT getting women. If youre trying to be something youre not, unplug youre modem.

Here the central idea is change, but not all change is good.

You may just want to live and not analyse. Did youre dad need an internet site to hook up your mom?
 
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gav

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Originally posted by AMF
Did youre dad need an internet site to hook up your mom?
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what are you sayin about his mom? :D
 
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Titus

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There seems to be a bunch of real smartasses up here. With no actual knowledge of what they are dealing with here on this site (and NO, i do not mean me in any way :) )

Do what you wish, boys. I've said what i've said.
 
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