"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Where to start?

Blue Dude

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I am clueless!

I have read dj bible, countless threads, methods after methods but I have no idea where to start. What to try first, what second. This method, that method. Anybody expirienced got any tips for me on where to start.

I basicly need to learn to appraoch and open, and convo technics.

- I know how to approach, but its plain and boring. It dosent set a fire in the girls if you know what I mean.

- I have trouble opening a set with more than 3 girls.

- When I start talking I basicly build a big fcking report and nothing happens.

Help!!

Dude
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What have you learned from reading the DJ bible and the countless threads you have viewed?

Your change comes from you and your own personal life. It doesn't start with talking to women.
 

Blue Dude

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no, maybe it dosen't. But my life is good. I dress good, I act good, I feel good. Everything.

But talking to girls is where my problem lies.

So if your advice is, go in your room and build selfconfidence, feel good about your self etc etc, I have it all. So now, can you give me advice on what I ask for?

Dude
 

Walking Anomaly

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You sound like a smart dude...Trying to analyze things and accumulate knowledge and methods-trying to organize it into a sequence of events (first do #1, then #2, then #3, and so on)

But the thing with DJ'in is that every woman will be somehow different, so you can't really break it down into a science....I've tried to do it.

You can't rely completely on these techniques in my opinion. They are a guide, not set in stone. They will not work 100% of the time.

Best thing that you can do is to go out and talk to as many women as you can. Pay attention to what you talk about and take note if the girls are receptive, or disgusted. Once you build rapport (some connection), you can talk about pretty much anything.

Just go up to them and say "Hi" - thats all. Before you go up to them...take notice of something about her that you can talk about (weird clothing, perfume, anything...) as a start-off topic.

Just an example:
I picked up a chick one time because i knew what perfume she was wearing (it was Love Spell, which i think smells lovely on a chick). She was astonished that I knew what she was wearing, and was completely receptive after that one comment...number closed, ended up datin a bit...

And have a chill attitude...try not to worry about what the outcome will be...the chicks you are talking to at the time aren't the only ones you will find good looking wherever you are.

The rest is really up to you. You can do it

~WA
 
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