I bet that no sex period was under 30 days. A year without it and your attraction is killed.
I can speak personally to this, I am well over a year myself. Similar situation as the OP minus being 6'4. As I said before, it wasn't always this way. The primary decline came when my social life started to quiet down a bit. Living in a rural area in your late 30s is a death knell for meeting women you want to meet. Age is a meaningful factor for women deciding who they will even talk to, so that eliminates a good number of women who will even talk to you on dating sites. Next, most of the good women are naturally in relationships. Nothing you can do about that.
Anywhere here is my opinion on the subject
What Works
- Having a social circle, a social life and status. Hanging out with people you like naturally makes you more approachable. Meeting women through said social circle is easier because they are less defensive.
- Living in the right area, or not living in a bad area. If there are more men than women, the results are obvious. If the quality of men in you area are bad, it will reflect negativly on what women want. I have observed that women are worse when they have less competition, and much nicer and approachable when there are more attractive women around.
- Not looking like a slob - you got this one covered. No need to expand on this
- As Rollo Tomassi said, looks, status, money; have two.
What doesn't seem to work
-A long cold streak. Women pick up that you haven't been with another women, and have no interest in a male with no competing interest. its really that simple. You either have momentum, or you have nothing.
- Being normal/ put together. I work out often, can hold a conversation, actually have money (unlike most men where I live), great career, started a business etc. None of that matters in this situation.
- Too many men where you live and low quality men. See above.
- Activities consisting of mostly men. Kind of a no brainer, but the mantra of this site is to pursue your own interests regardless of women. I agree with this, but the double edged sword in this case is that you simply don't get exposure to women.
- being generic on a dating site or dating app. Women have so many options, they will simply forget who you are in a matter of days unless you manage to be good at it.
I think some ideas proposed in this thread are good. Maybe be a regular at a local fitness class - spin, yoga or whatever. I also looked into local painting classes as it seems interesting and might be a unique way to socialize. Since you are young, stick to a good social circle and that will pay off. Avoid those acquaintance type friends with whom you have no rapport. I have had the best of both worlds with my social group, and can say ones success ties very closely to how happy you are with the group of people you socialize with on a regular basis.
best of luck
