Where to meet good women during your everyday life

[tesla8520]

Hi everyone! I'm really curious about how focused each of us is in our lives.

Let's say your job was ****, so now you run your business and work 8 hours a day.
Let's say your social circle had some toxic elements, and you pushed them away and cut out contact with them, keeping only those who respect you and listen to you.
Let's say you have very little time available.
You're focused, you have financial goals, health goals, etc.
But how the heck do you meet quality women?

If there's one thing I've learned from the harsh law, it's that after 35, unless they're already in a relationship, met at parties, or by chance while running errands, you have basically a 1% chance of meeting someone.
Everyone will say you'll meet them while doing your activities: volunteering, hiking, fitness, etc.

But that's not the case. In fact, yif you have a job that you need to focus, which is not something like a photographer, who could actually met women during the process, but le'ts say is something like a office business.
Also, if you ever meet them, many of them are single too young, or are already in a relationship.
It's as if after 28, these women are all already very busy, and there's nothing good out there.

A friend of mine simply told me to stay in good contact with all married women (the ones you think are the good ones), and not to do stupid things like getting physical or doing anything else that would disrespect their relationship. Instead, keep them "close" to you, and if their relationship doesn't work out in the future, they'll branch out to you. They keep an eye.
(My friend's idea doesn't really convince me, but he does, and it worked when we were teenagers, but now I don't know.)

Pretty much everything.
What do you do?

 

[plumber]

common situation. this is one of the reasons dating apps did so well. best chance is with an introduction from someone you know, or being active in a social circle and as new members cycle through some of them might see you as interesting. its better if they are the new member vs you trying to join groups as the new member.

you meet these women likely all the time but don't see them. quality women don't look the same as hot women usually. we see hot women and focus on those while many quality ones are invisible to us.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Tesla,
Dance lessons are good.

 

[Gamisch]

Advice about is a good start.

Other then that you gotta design a life(style) where you regularly got something going on, perhaps combined with OLD running in the background.

Imo it's always a matter of luck, and luck happens when preparations meets opportunity.

Whether a woman is good( for you) is always a toss up.

 

[tesla8520]

common situation. this is one of the reasons dating apps did so well

Okay!
Actually, think about it... if you want a mutually beneficial meeting, that's the only solution.
The problem is that it's not organic, and 99 out of 100 women are there, bombarded by every man.

The same could be said for social media. Think about it: women are in real relationships with men they didn't meet on social media, although I have to tell the truth: I know many solid couples who met "in person," perhaps at an event or a party, and then continued interacting on social media.
He followed her, she followed him, then he liked her, she did the same, she posted tinder stories, and he responded.
The pursuit starts on social media once contact has been established.
I know five couples like this, where if the man hadn't had social media, he probably would never have gotten together with that woman.

This is a big problem... how do you men cope without social media?

In the end, it's really about having "more exposure."

 

[Bible_Belt]

Hi Tesla,
Dance lessons are good.

Animal charities too.

 

[Scaramouche]

Animal charities too.

Hi Bibles,
Over here we have RSPCA dog refuges,the stray pooches are walked by volunteers,I used take my daughter there as a volunteer....You will meet people volunteering there,a bonus is that they are all nice kind people.

 

[pipeman84]

A friend of mine simply told me to stay in good contact with all married women (the ones you think are the good ones), and not to do stupid things like getting physical or doing anything else that would disrespect their relationship. Instead, keep them "close" to you, and if their relationship doesn't work out in the future, they'll branch out to you. They keep an eye.
(My friend's idea doesn't really convince me, but he does, and it worked when we were teenagers, but now I don't know.)

That's such obvious BS advice that I assume your friend was in fact trolling you.

But how the heck do you meet quality women?

I think all you can do is to develop yourself into a quality man. Then let the universe, God, whatever match you with a woman. There are no guaranteed places where you could find her. Sure, statistically speaking, a church is better than a nightclub. But you're not a statistic, you're an individual.