"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Where to meet girls in their early 20s?

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I have recently graduated college and I am taking it upon myself to start meeting more "nice" girls. I am tired of the club and bar scene so I'm looking for different venues. I tried going to Toastmasters today, but it wasn't for me, as everyone was older. For my "social" life, I'm next planning to try Happy Hour. I've never really gone to many Happy Hours, but it seems girls at this time are much more inclined to have a conversation, as opposed to late night clubbing and bars.

Other than Happy Hour, what are some other venues I can try? I want to join some clubs and make more friends, guys and girls, but I don't have any idea what I could join. I go to a gym regularly, and I've thought of trying to meet some people there, but it's not that easy.

I'm open to suggestions.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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brod716

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It would be helpful if you told us your location, as urban areas present many more opportunities than small towns...
 

JT47319

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Girls at bars and clubs ARE open to being approached, it is after all a social venue. Day time approachees are more closed off because they're usually on they're way to/from somewhere whereas club goers are there to BE social. If you are not succeeding in approaching, it is not the girls' problem, but rather your technique.
 

Juan_Man

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I recently graduated from college also. I've been to bars and clubs but I either get rejected or flaked on (I think I look too young). What does a guy in my position (who's only out for some play) do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Pete_C

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Go back to college and work on your masters or Phd. Girls get impressed by guy with higher education = money. Planty of HB at school who are looking for mr.right, who knows you might find your future gf or wife there
 
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