"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have recently graduated college and I am taking it upon myself to start meeting more "nice" girls. I am tired of the club and bar scene so I'm looking for different venues. I tried going to Toastmasters today, but it wasn't for me, as everyone was older. For my "social" life, I'm next planning to try Happy Hour. I've never really gone to many Happy Hours, but it seems girls at this time are much more inclined to have a conversation, as opposed to late night clubbing and bars.

Other than Happy Hour, what are some other venues I can try? I want to join some clubs and make more friends, guys and girls, but I don't have any idea what I could join. I go to a gym regularly, and I've thought of trying to meet some people there, but it's not that easy.

I'm open to suggestions.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It would be helpful if you told us your location, as urban areas present many more opportunities than small towns...
 
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Girls at bars and clubs ARE open to being approached, it is after all a social venue. Day time approachees are more closed off because they're usually on they're way to/from somewhere whereas club goers are there to BE social. If you are not succeeding in approaching, it is not the girls' problem, but rather your technique.
 
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I recently graduated from college also. I've been to bars and clubs but I either get rejected or flaked on (I think I look too young). What does a guy in my position (who's only out for some play) do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Go back to college and work on your masters or Phd. Girls get impressed by guy with higher education = money. Planty of HB at school who are looking for mr.right, who knows you might find your future gf or wife there
 
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