Where to find non social media obsessed women?

[DreamAgain]

Just as it is rare to find a man not addicted to those things or addicted to video games, as rare will it be to find a girl who isn't addicted to those things.

Putting yourself out there can help you weed out those addicted women until you find what you're looking for.

And remember, if you are not yourself what you're looking for, then what you're looking for will reject you.

I think that I am, I'm not a hypocrite. Why would I be?

 

[DreamAgain]

There's a big difference between someone that is raised with city morals & values vs. those brought up in the country.

If I wanted a girl that wasn't

Does your dating profile on Hinge state anything about preferring someone that isn't into social media? It needs too.

The type of people that are less likely to use social media will have these traits:

-Don't need external validation
-High Self Awareness
-They have hobbies, and live their life with purpose
-Strong Boundaries
-Goal Driven
-They prefer to connect with others in person
-They are critical thinkers
-Don't like drama
-They live in the present

You will find more of these types of people in small towns, particularly in farming/ranching communities in the midwestern United States than you will in large cities. Or they grew up in small towns and moved to big cities for their career.

I'd start hanging out more at the places you mentioned(museums, parks, etc), perhaps volunteering.

Let me give you an example of one and how she is essentially a weapon of mass destruction:

sarah lauren (@sarahlauren_71) - InstagramInstagram · sarahlauren_71194K+ followers

These and her ilk "influence" millions of girls, to me these are absolutely toxic women that are increasing in numbers, especially again like I mentioned if her looks are at all above average.

Small towns are great places in theory the issue is at a certain age it becomes hard mode to game there, the bigger cities have way more single people in their 20s and 30s.

 

[The Duke]

Let me give you an example of one and how she is essentially a weapon of mass destruction:

sarah lauren (@sarahlauren_71) - InstagramInstagram · sarahlauren_71194K+ followers

These and her ilk "influence" millions of girls, to me these are absolutely toxic women that are increasing in numbers, especially again like I mentioned if her looks are at all above average.

Small towns are great places in theory the issue is at a certain age it becomes hard mode to game there, the bigger cities have way more single people in their 20s and 30s.

I've known a few girls like her. They get passed around like party favors amongst wealthy men. Most of them end up broke, unhappy, riddled with anxiety, and no good man takes them serious when their looks start to fade and they realize their best days are behind them.

 

[Bigpapa]

There's a big difference between someone that is raised with city morals & values vs. those brought up in the country.

If I wanted a girl that wasn't

Does your dating profile on Hinge state anything about preferring someone that isn't into social media? It needs too.

The type of people that are less likely to use social media will have these traits:

-Don't need external validation
-High Self Awareness
-They have hobbies, and live their life with purpose
-Strong Boundaries
-Goal Driven
-They prefer to connect with others in person
-They are critical thinkers
-Don't like drama
-They live in the present

You will find more of these types of people in small towns, particularly in farming/ranching communities in the midwestern United States than you will in large cities. Or they grew up in small towns and moved to big cities for their career.

I'd start hanging out more at the places you mentioned(museums, parks, etc), perhaps volunteering.

Assuming we talk about girls that are maximum 35, I can only say that the better looking a girl the more the chance is that she consumes social media because That is what her social circle is

these days social media is more used than whatssup by the younger crowd

usually the girls that I met and were not really that present on social media they either were more on the ugly side of things either had social / mental problems

 

[Divorced w 3]

Not totally media free but not nearly as obsessed, believe it or not, the 20’s crowd

 

[DreamAgain]

Not totally media free but not nearly as obsessed, believe it or not, the 20’s crowd

Really? What city are you in where you've observed this?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Really? What city are you in where you've observed this?

New York suburbs

 

[Divorced w 3]

I've known a few girls like her. They get passed around like party favors amongst wealthy men. Most of them end up broke, unhappy, riddled with anxiety, and no good man takes them serious when their looks start to fade and they realize their best days are behind them.

Yup … I’m ‘friends’ if you can call it that with a woman I hooked up with 20 years ago when she was simply a girl from a small Midwest town whose mother took her to a motel I crap you not so my friend could meet her, and then she hooked up with each of us- and then she became a pageant queen and then her instagram is daily photos of flowers, men taking her on boats or abroad, and I had tickets to the Met gala a couple years ago and she was like oh man can I get in, first time we spoke in years

 

[Divorced w 3]

I'm having trouble in the dating market and really could use some advice what to do.

So far, be it in person or online dating avenues, overwhelmingly I have run into girls who seem to be completely brain rotted. They are addicted to reels, addicted to short form content, speak in patterns mimicking what they consume on social media.

Add on to this consuming toxic content on Netflix, HBO, reality TV (the amount of profiles saying they love trashy reality TV on Hinge is quite startling), brunch, dogs, and using therapy speak is making me question what is actually going on.

Add in the extreme entitlement probably garnered from unrealistic social media expectations, the lack of ability to string together several coherent thoughts/sentences due to over reliance of chatgpt, I am getting quite depressed as to what the dating market is offering.

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this? What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks, have a worldly perspective beyond consumerism/materialism.

I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable, having many cultural events available, but I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

Willing to travel internationally and learn other languages if that's what it takes.

I would get a hinge or bumble account and simply be direct on it and it may take a little longer but, that’s the point you filter it out.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The New Jersey Pine Barrens would be a good place to look.

 

[BadBoy89]

- I'm having trouble in the dating market and really could use some advice what to do.
- What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks
- I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable,
- I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

- Willing to travel internationally and learn other languages if that's what it takes.

I would prefer European, just so that my future kids look similar to me.

The problem is I have traveled across Europe too and the big cities seem to be plagued with this problem as well.

I have gone to these various events and meetups and found mostly overweight women or ones that have other problems (remember about 80% of the USA is overweight, 40% are obese).

Apparently:

US no good for women.
Europe no good for women
3rd world country no good for women.

What do you want us to tell you bro?

 

[justaroundthecorner]

You can look for such persons even on dating apps.

Unfortunately, the key is to use intuition, not typical male linear logic.

Example of non-linear logic = "wow, best sexy photos =must be HB 9/10 at least" - thousands of other guys think like that as well.

Non-linear logic: "Average photos, but otherwise she seems to look great if you pay attention to her body type and no filter used, there's something in her eyes, rather conservative attire, youthful appearance in spite of rather serious photo, that photo seems to be made by a woman, not man" etc.

Most of the guys (like 90%) suck at intuitive assessment of photos or female behaviour, what they say and what they do not say. But it can be trained to some extent (only IQ and EQ levels limits your potential observation skills)

Dating apps are still better than any particular social group as social group is by definition closed and demands time to be "penetrated" successfully - also social groups develop social structures that have mechanisms used to limit your dating effectiveness (AMOGs and their friends, female packs and their tests, average SMV females entering male-oriented social groups to experience more interest from men otherwise not available to them etc.) - it all wastes or can waste your time in the process - anything is better than relying on social group if you respect your time.

If you are young (35 at most) you can visit some party venue /local provincial disco away from the city to find some local women which are less entitled and less social media oriented than women in the city.

If you are older, my bet would be still on dating apps as they do not waste your time as much as dany form of enforced day/night game.

 

[DreamAgain]

Apparently:

US no good for women.
Europe no good for women
3rd world country no good for women.

What do you want us to tell you bro?

I'm not stating my thoughts as facts, if someone has contrary evidence then that is the whole point of writing it here.

 

[DreamAgain]

You can look for such persons even on dating apps.

Unfortunately, the key is to use intuition, not typical male linear logic.

Example of non-linear logic = "wow, best sexy photos =must be HB 9/10 at least" - thousands of other guys think like that as well.

Non-linear logic: "Average photos, but otherwise she seems to look great if you pay attention to her body type and no filter used, there's something in her eyes, rather conservative attire, youthful appearance in spite of rather serious photo, that photo seems to be made by a woman, not man" etc.

Most of the guys (like 90%) suck at intuitive assessment of photos or female behaviour, what they say and what they do not say. But it can be trained to some extent (only IQ and EQ levels limits your potential observation skills)

Dating apps are still better than any particular social group as social group is by definition closed and demands time to be "penetrated" successfully - also social groups develop social structures that have mechanisms used to limit your dating effectiveness (AMOGs and their friends, female packs and their tests, average SMV females entering male-oriented social groups to experience more interest from men otherwise not available to them etc.) - it all wastes or can waste your time in the process - anything is better than relying on social group if you respect your time.

If you are young (35 at most) you can visit some party venue /local provincial disco away from the city to find some local women which are less entitled and less social media oriented than women in the city.

If you are older, my bet would be still on dating apps as they do not waste your time as much as dany form of enforced day/night game.

So you think after 35 going to bars and all this is pretty much hopeless?

I kind of agree, but it is a bit of a depressing thought that all that is left is swiping.

 

[HaleyBaron]

You can look for such persons even on dating apps.

Unfortunately, the key is to use intuition, not typical male linear logic.

Example of non-linear logic = "wow, best sexy photos =must be HB 9/10 at least" - thousands of other guys think like that as well.

Non-linear logic: "Average photos, but otherwise she seems to look great if you pay attention to her body type and no filter used, there's something in her eyes, rather conservative attire, youthful appearance in spite of rather serious photo, that photo seems to be made by a woman, not man" etc.

Most of the guys (like 90%) suck at intuitive assessment of photos or female behaviour, what they say and what they do not say. But it can be trained to some extent (only IQ and EQ levels limits your potential observation skills)

Dating apps are still better than any particular social group as social group is by definition closed and demands time to be "penetrated" successfully - also social groups develop social structures that have mechanisms used to limit your dating effectiveness (AMOGs and their friends, female packs and their tests, average SMV females entering male-oriented social groups to experience more interest from men otherwise not available to them etc.) - it all wastes or can waste your time in the process - anything is better than relying on social group if you respect your time.

If you are young (35 at most) you can visit some party venue /local provincial disco away from the city to find some local women which are less entitled and less social media oriented than women in the city.

If you are older, my bet would be still on dating apps as they do not waste your time as much as dany form of enforced day/night game.

Dating apps are bad, bad, bad. I'm trying to get my close friend off of them. All his dates so far have been with mediocre women all with issues. I keep telling him that any woman on a dating app is wasted goods. Go to a physical meetup and actually meet women there instead.

GET OFF DATING APPS. ALL OF YOU.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Dating apps are bad, bad, bad. I'm trying to get my close friend off of them. All his dates so far have been with mediocre women all with issues. I keep telling him that any woman on a dating app is wasted goods. Go to a physical meetup and actually meet women there instead.

GET OFF DATING APPS. ALL OF YOU.

That feels dramatic. You need to fish with the right bait and be patient to catch good fish. Yes by all means leave the house, I just played pickleball at the club for instance, but why not leverage technology to make a precise connection ?

 

[justaroundthecorner]

So you think after 35 going to bars and all this is pretty much hopeless?

I kind of agree, but it is a bit of a depressing thought that all that is left is swiping.

It depends what are you looking for and who you are really (how good looking are you) - I never liked bar game as I didn't want to spend hours on sitting & trying to make an eye contact, in particular knowing female preference for tall guys (I am not tall myself), I had more success on the dance floor.

 

[HaleyBaron]

That feels dramatic. You need to fish with the right bait and be patient to catch good fish. Yes by all means leave the house, I just played pickleball at the club for instance, but why not leverage technology to make a precise connection ?

So you want to fish on a site where the only qualifier is how someone looks? And women have all the choosing power? Good luck.

 

[Isildur1]

social media is part of the day to day life- and can enhance your dating life if done right - its basically the way to advertise who you are- a lot of women that i met through daygame said they scoured my social media before agreeing to a date.

Women need social media to keep their options open or they risk losing out too- no woman is going to sacrifice the chance of dating better just to appease your personal needs. It can work to your advantage if done right you need to embrace it. Because its not going away

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[The Duke]

social media is part of the day to day life- and can enhance your dating life if done right - its basically the way to advertise who you are- a lot of women that i met through daygame said they scoured my social media before agreeing to a date.

Women need social media to keep their options open or they risk losing out too- no woman is going to sacrifice the chance of dating better just to appease your personal needs. It can work to your advantage if done right you need to embrace it. Because its not going away

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Why would you ever give a woman the upper hand? Just stop using social media. It's leading men to their demise. Its almost as bad as dating apps.