"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Where is your Stumbling Block with Women?

What is your Stumbling Block with Women?

  • Finding Women to Meet

    Votes: 9 23.1%
  • Talking to Women in Person

    Votes: 7 17.9%
  • Getting Phone Numbers

    Votes: 2 5.1%
  • Getting a Kiss

    Votes: 4 10.3%
  • Having Sex

    Votes: 4 10.3%
  • Having a Relationship (> 3 months)

    Votes: 5 12.8%
  • Having a Long Term Relationship (> 6 months)

    Votes: 8 20.5%
  • Getting Married

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Staying Married

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    39

bigneil

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At what point do you normally see your approach to women getting derailed?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Who Dares Win

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after the 5th or 6th sexual intercourse...months? lucky you mate I can bang relatively easy but Im totally incapable of keeping them or maybe I lack something that they look in a long term guy.
The good thing is that after disappearing for months they call me again out of nowhere so if Im in the middle of a dry spell I can break it.
 
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SoldMySoul

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^^^^Me for the most part^^^^I voted and it would easily be maintaining a rship... I always start off like a true champ, but lose the frame because of stupidity... I guess I am like a lot of the PUA...can get the close most of the time if I set my mind to it, but I need to hone my long distance skills.

I desire a relationship!!!
 

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Having a Relationship (> 3 months)....just voted for it..hehe
 

Fly By Night

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Mine is kind of in the middle of talking to women and getting phone numbers. I have trouble being more sexual to women I want to game. I can get their number, but they do not want to meet up with me mostly because they did not get to know me well enough when we first met. :/
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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bigneil

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I've found that no matter where you fail along the path (to ?), you tend to feel equally bad.
 

Serg897

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Most definately having a long term relationship (> 6 months). The ones I'm truly interested in seem to always leave so far. Gota keep myself in check better.
 

Leporello

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It's not at any particular point. It's being a nice guy. I really, really, REALLY have to stop being such a doormat.
 

SgtSplacker

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With me it's just meeting women with my same interests. I think I do reasonably well considering my appearance and financial position.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sofomore

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I have bad approach anxiety. Once I get over it I can usually chat up the girls but just DOING IT and approaching is the hardest part for me.
 

MasterFuu

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I think to be successful with woman one must know himself first. Have you ever met a woman where you just click and are yourself? It's not easy to find but it's out there. Find that. Then you can be yourself weather you are cool, or nerdy or funny or arrogant. She will "get it" and you can be truly yourself. Beware not to let your walls down completely and become too comfortable. That usually would be the end of what could become a great relationship. Ha ha speaking from experience :crackup:
I'm somewhat of a socially awkward guy although I can speak to any girl and am confident I need to click with her. Or my interest dies. If my interest is suddenly low the girl can feel that and her interest goes low.
My past relationships I found a girl that I click with and went from there. If I don't click I just move on fast.
I could never understand my friend Dr.L who slept with 400+ woman (hes 30) and is on a pu^^y conquest. All that time and money and drama..I could not manage that. So to him the whole "clicking" strategy does not even matter.
 

rum

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Keeping her interested after 5-6 months or so. I can pitch a perfect game 3-4 months into a relationship...after that I can't seem to do much right.
 

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All of my relationships last exactly 5 months and 9 days.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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bigneil said:
All of my relationships last exactly 5 months and 9 days.
rofl...just how many? Mine sink ship at around 9 months lol...i always found some sick humor about it.
 

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I can name four relationships that lasted exactly that long. However, in 3 of them I moved away.
 
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Finding a woman who I click with is my stumbling block. I found her once and through my own AFC behaviour she got away, but I'm sure another woman with who I click with will come along at some point with differing results, so I am not too worried at the moment.

I've always maintained that I do not want to go down the road of the PUA or someone who wh*res himself to any woman. I'm sure if I really wanted to I could easily increase the notches to my bed post, but the desire to plough my way through the Citeh is not there. I'm looking for quality over quantity and at the moment I cannot seem to find the quality. :D
 

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My stumbling block would be getting it to rub the lotion on it's skin and do it as it's told or else it gets the hose again.
 

Kenny Powers

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Honestly I just have trouble meeting women. I have solid game and looks and get interest from girls all the time. During night game girls I get numbers from tell me to "text them" all the time - though it rarely amounts to much since they're drunk and we only talked for like 5 min (gotta work on this).

I think I need to expand my social circle so i can meet more girls. I just need to meet an attractive, intelligent and single girl and when both of us are sober!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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