"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Where is the line between building value and bragging?

DJorBUST

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Good to be here. I came upon this forum recently and have been browsing for awhile now. I'm a mid-twenties AFK with some serious need of help.

While talking to women, I'm always afraid that I've crossed the line from building value in a sort of indirect way and just outright bragging about myself and seeming like an arrogant ass.

Here are some examples of things I think would impress women in no particular order:
1. I exercise quite often and I've been hitting the gym for years (I don't look that buff tho). Basically, I have physical strength.
2. I am an excellent cook. I took professional cooking classes and I cook quite frequently.
3. I'm intelligent. I graduated from an Ivy league school and I am coming close to finishing med school.
4. I have an excellent sense of humor. This, however, doesn't come across that well initially because I'm nervous on the initial approach.

Obviously I want to build as much value as possible in a short period of time before trying to ask a girl out on a date or get her number. How would I work something positive like being a doctor into the conversation effectively or should I even put something like that into the conversation at all?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warboss Alex

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Quite frankly, a woman doesn't want to hear about you, she'll be bored if you talk about yourself.. ask her about HERSELF and then she'll ask you about you. simple really.

You don't have to sell yourself. She'll get to find out your traits if she's interested enough.

Selling yourself smacks of desperation-to-impress in my humble, non-DJ opinion.
 

Nighthawk

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The line is just before she suspects you're bigging yourself up. The ideal man doesn't have to try too hard.
 
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