penkitten
Master Don Juan
Can't find it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Where is the bible?
- Thread starter penkitten
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Aspiring Don Juan
Don Juan
Is it ever going to come back up? I've found that every page that I have bookmarked in the past no longer works
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Yes, there is a way to fix it. Desdinova is currently working on it. Will take a few weeks though, so be patient. Still working out the kinks on the new site.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
GetSwifty
Don Juan
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https://web.archive.org/web/20120703090915/http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible
Some of the links may not be archived, but the few I checked, all worked.
That's always a good place to look, any time the old version of anything disappears. Archive has just about every significant page available, so long as you have the original link.
Some of the links may not be archived, but the few I checked, all worked.
That's always a good place to look, any time the old version of anything disappears. Archive has just about every significant page available, so long as you have the original link.