"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Where is the balance?

2Rocky

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As a younger man, I wanted to be the guy who had the answers. The guy who "knows a guy", the guy who hears about opportunities first, The expert in my field.


But in discussing boundaries when do I go from being an Authority to being the "Research *****"?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WadeWatts

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When your information either, one ups or trumps everyone else’s the majority of the time. Not that I have ever researched this ratio out but maybe apply the 2/3’s rule to this. Less is more.
Hope this helps
 

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Depends on the depth required. If you want some rules of thumb it's a topic. Your looking for general tactics that work most of the time.

If you want to make it situational you re trying to develop a decision making framework and need to go deep.

Given we believe in the panning for gold approach here - sifting through lots of material (screening) for the rare nuggets I think rules of thumb and let the chips fall is the best bang for buck.
 
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