"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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where/how to meet girls in my situation

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ne0phyte

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just moved into a new area about half a year ago, and i'm kinda at a loss to figure out where to meet girls.

i live in the suburban area, work in a small office part time and take classes at night to advance my career. I'm so busy that I feel like I don't even have time to rejuvenate myself. To make matters worse, most of the people at work , and everyone in my class seems to be in LTRs or married. Thus even when i'm up for hitting up a bar at night, the guys just wanna/have to go home to their wives. My social circle at school is pretty decent in terms of going out, but everyone's busy and we don't go out that often.

so as a budding DJ, what should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i feel you brother. I just moved to a whole new city for work. I was really broke paying off debts owed so didn't get to go out much in the beginning. I went out a few times with my co-workers which was cool but nothing lately. A couple girls seemed into me at work and one of them has a banging a$$ body but work is work. Very little to no luck with women lately.

I did however find some new motivation keeping me busy. Working out. Knowing that i'm working towards looking and feeling good is what mostly takes the time away for me.

Slowly things will come along as they always do. I don't go out much but when i do i end up networking with some women whether they're attractive or not (by not i mean average). Just take things as they come.
 
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really just sounds like you're making excuses, like you're some type of helpless victim of circumstances.
you are not totally helpless to meet new single friends to hang with.
 
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Expand your social circle: hang out with your friends who are married and maybe their spouses. Maybe someone can hook you up. The bigger and more diverse your social circle the more bites you will get.
 
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well I'm trying to expand my social circle, it's just I have such a time constraint. It's not that I'm making excuses, I'm just trying to make the best out of my situation. work + school takes me basically from 8am to 8pm. pretty hard to be an energetic pua when I just want to go to sleep. who knew the real world would be so different from college.

also more specific tips would be appreciated. should i start going to bars by myself? how does that work? also, I've been looking around while I'm at the mall, and for the most part I just see HS age people or people who work there. I feel like if I try to game the workers, they'll start recognizing me if I start going to the mall every weekend to get numbers.

and as for my married/LTR friends, they've actually never talked about me being single, is it socially acceptable to just ask if they have anyone in mind to hook me up with?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Join some of the local meet up group in your area. It's a great way to meet people and build your social skills. In addition, you may also discover some really cool activities or location in your area.
 
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ne0phyte said:
well I'm trying to expand my social circle, it's just I have such a time constraint. It's not that I'm making excuses, I'm just trying to make the best out of my situation. work + school takes me basically from 8am to 8pm. pretty hard to be an energetic pua when I just want to go to sleep. who knew the real world would be so different from college.

also more specific tips would be appreciated. should i start going to bars by myself? how does that work? also, I've been looking around while I'm at the mall, and for the most part I just see HS age people or people who work there. I feel like if I try to game the workers, they'll start recognizing me if I start going to the mall every weekend to get numbers.

and as for my married/LTR friends, they've actually never talked about me being single, is it socially acceptable to just ask if they have anyone in mind to hook me up with?
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Tough one mate, and I can understand it, since for a couple of years back, I was in a similar situation when I was doing my Masters. Full time work and then you'd get home and have to do 2-3 hours more study.

Also since I've been 21, I've moved 4 times for work, simply because I put my career first at this stage in my life.

For me, I just didn't really have the time to fit everything in, so I accepted that I should focus on my study/career for this part of my life.

And took whatever opportunities came up. Things happen sometimes when you least expect it...

So all I can suggest is to try and expand your social circle as best you can, and when you get the chance, do something. Online dating is also worthwhile having a look at.

Good luck!
 
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appreciate sharing your experience runner83. it's pretty much exactly what i'm goin through right now. wouldn't be so bad if everyone at work wasn't in some type of relationship. gonna try to make the best out of it and keep my eyes open
 
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