A brief aside: The term "Quality Woman" is really starting to bug me. When I hear a guy say that, he has just broadcast [to us] plain and clear that he's another matrix resident, jacked in nice and warm and cozy. From what I've observed, I have yet to hear a MAN who's secure in his masculinity use this phrase. Where I do hear it [often] is around guys who have allowed themselves into the goal-state of seeking their one OR self-limiting their choices via high-standards as to avoid the risk of rejection.
Back on topic. I'll describe an example of one of the "Better Ones" and where you might find her. I am recently married. One of the many things that was important to me was that my wife have several good girlfriends and no male girlfriends. Check. And so I am slowing getting to know better some of her closer friends and acquaintences as they come to visit, we go to dinner, etc. And this brings me to one in particular. Let's just call her HB9.
Obviously looks/attraction matter a lot. HB9 is just that, easily a HB9 based on looks alone - and I'm quite picky these days when it comes to this scale. She has a energetic personality and good character. She is in her early 30's. Never been married. No kids. College educated. Good career but not the narcissistic, a-type, scorned woman-type. Comes from a good, stable family where no parents or siblings are addicts, abuser, etc. According to the wifey, HB9 doesn't date very often and is mainly frustrated with trying to find the right guy.
So where do you find HB9? Good Luck!
She used to go to church and then stopped several years ago. She works out and keeps in fantastic shape, yet I understand she does that at home. She does a lot of things with her nearby family (ie playing Auntie HB9). She does go out, mainly with the girlfriends after work. So she's got a perimeter defense with the entire clutch protecting her from you DJ's and PUA's out there.
And now my point. There is a pretty darned awesome HB9 out there (actually there are many). You're not going to meet this one going to church. She doesn't take classes anymore since she's past all that. She's waiting/hoping an ALPHA will lead her thru hobbies/interests together. Heck, you'd probably argue that she's boring/timid/LSE until you talked to her for just 15 minutes. I assure you, you'll being thinking the exact opposite. Here is a hot babe who is one of the "Better Ones" and you'd have a much better chance of meeting her at the grocery store than some evening class after work. She's like any other woman, she's looking for a guy with a big pair to cold-approach her instead of being intimidated and drueling from afar. And of course I'm introducing some of my single buddies to her - just gotta get them past the wifey's shields first!)
Another interesting note here. Before I had met HB9, the wife described her as all that. I just let it roll out the other ear. All women seem to chat up their friends, overrate their attractiveness, etc. In this case, she was dead-on right. So there is another place to meet these *Better Ones*. Spend time with your buddies who seem to have found the DJ way. And If they are truly DJ and in a LTR then implicitly they are with one of these *Better Ones* (or they wouldn't be a DJ in the first place). And although there's no guarantee, I believe there is a decent chance that your DJ friend's *Better One* just might have a girlfriend of similar caliber somewhere nearby. Then it's your job to get by the defensive network (one sign that there is target of interest).
Back on topic. I'll describe an example of one of the "Better Ones" and where you might find her. I am recently married. One of the many things that was important to me was that my wife have several good girlfriends and no male girlfriends. Check. And so I am slowing getting to know better some of her closer friends and acquaintences as they come to visit, we go to dinner, etc. And this brings me to one in particular. Let's just call her HB9.
Obviously looks/attraction matter a lot. HB9 is just that, easily a HB9 based on looks alone - and I'm quite picky these days when it comes to this scale. She has a energetic personality and good character. She is in her early 30's. Never been married. No kids. College educated. Good career but not the narcissistic, a-type, scorned woman-type. Comes from a good, stable family where no parents or siblings are addicts, abuser, etc. According to the wifey, HB9 doesn't date very often and is mainly frustrated with trying to find the right guy.
So where do you find HB9? Good Luck!
She used to go to church and then stopped several years ago. She works out and keeps in fantastic shape, yet I understand she does that at home. She does a lot of things with her nearby family (ie playing Auntie HB9). She does go out, mainly with the girlfriends after work. So she's got a perimeter defense with the entire clutch protecting her from you DJ's and PUA's out there.
And now my point. There is a pretty darned awesome HB9 out there (actually there are many). You're not going to meet this one going to church. She doesn't take classes anymore since she's past all that. She's waiting/hoping an ALPHA will lead her thru hobbies/interests together. Heck, you'd probably argue that she's boring/timid/LSE until you talked to her for just 15 minutes. I assure you, you'll being thinking the exact opposite. Here is a hot babe who is one of the "Better Ones" and you'd have a much better chance of meeting her at the grocery store than some evening class after work. She's like any other woman, she's looking for a guy with a big pair to cold-approach her instead of being intimidated and drueling from afar. And of course I'm introducing some of my single buddies to her - just gotta get them past the wifey's shields first!)
Another interesting note here. Before I had met HB9, the wife described her as all that. I just let it roll out the other ear. All women seem to chat up their friends, overrate their attractiveness, etc. In this case, she was dead-on right. So there is another place to meet these *Better Ones*. Spend time with your buddies who seem to have found the DJ way. And If they are truly DJ and in a LTR then implicitly they are with one of these *Better Ones* (or they wouldn't be a DJ in the first place). And although there's no guarantee, I believe there is a decent chance that your DJ friend's *Better One* just might have a girlfriend of similar caliber somewhere nearby. Then it's your job to get by the defensive network (one sign that there is target of interest).
