Where do you meet quality single 30+ women?

[Jariel]

I was thinking lately that if I am single again I would like to start dating women my own age or older. I actually seem to be a hit with older women, so I've always figured it would be quite easy for me, but then it occurred to me that I don't know any attractive, quality single women over 30.

Where do you meet them? How do you approach them?


(Btw. I'm talking relationship material, not just a ONS or MILF. I could get those from the clubs by clicking my fingers.)

 

[Hitman10000]

If you want to meet quality 30+ year old women, you yourself better be a quality 30+ year old man as well. If you're working for $15/hr in a dead-end job at your age, don't expect to be dating Ms. Lawyer or a woman who is gainfully employed/intelligent. If you're spending most of your time home watching tv or jerking off to internet porn, don't expect yourself to be dating a girl who has much real world talent.

 

[Wyldfire]

Jariel...take classes the women might take, volunteer, get involved in your community. You'll find a much higher quality of older women in those places.

 

[Latinoman]

Jariel...if you are just 30...then why would you want to waste your time with 30+ year old women?

When I first read your question, I thought you were in your 40s and 50s.

 

[Jariel]

Thanks for the responses.

Hitman: I'm definitely a quality guy and generally do attract classy women, but I'd probably pass on the high flying career women/lawyer types. Just thinking of women who look good, take pride in themselves and has a positive attitude.


Wyldfire: I see where you're coming from and it would be nice to meet such women who are bettering themselves. Plus it's an environment where I can get to know them first, before making any moves. I'll keep that in mind.


Latino: I've been dating women in their early 20s for the last few years. My current girlfriend is 7 years younger than me too, but as attractive and sweet as they are, I've always felt there's a big maturity gap and something is lacking.

Generally, I connect better with older people anyway and find they're a lot more respectful towards me and bring out my best qualities.

 

[Jariel]

But I'm going to assume the basics here: Good looking, educated, no baggage, doesn't hate men, etc.

Yep, spot on!

I'm about to embark on a new career path soon so maybe this will open up a new world for me. Plus, once I start earning more I can consider extra hobbies, travel and alike.

Anyway, thanks for the solid advice here!

 

[Latinoman]

Thanks for the responses.




Latino: I've been dating women in their early 20s for the last few years. My current girlfriend is 7 years younger than me too, but as attractive and sweet as they are, I've always felt there's a big maturity gap and something is lacking.

That is the problem...you are dating KIDS. As a woman that is under 24 is just that...a KID.

Date women in the 27-32 range and you should be more than fine.

Date older as I consider a woman that is 35+ years of age AND 5+ years older than us (both conditions should meet)...kind of "undateable"...and you are for a HUGE surprise.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Thanks for the responses....

IMO I'd look at online dating sites. Real dating sites, not free social networks like MySpace, Okrut, Facebook or the like. People who want to get into real relationships are willing to pay for the service.

Match.com gives you the most bang for your buck with just the abundance of women online. I'd stay away from Eharmony though, way too much psycho-babble (I can't believe I said that). The concept is sound but it doesn't align too well with DJism. If you know how to qualify women well, Match would work well for you.

Suggestion: Before selecting any site, browse or search the site for the type of women you prefer withing your geographic location. If there's a good amount, you could try out the site short term before shelling out the $$$ for a long term commitment. Leverage sites that give you a free trial period too.

 

[Vulpine]

If you're working for $15/hr in a dead-end job at your age, don't expect to be dating Ms. Lawyer or a woman who is gainfully employed/intelligent.

Douche.

(You needed that, Hitman.)

That's some superficial, materialistic, self-limiting AFC garbage if I ever heard it.

If YOU are defining "success" or "quality" by one's job, $/hr, career and all that money crap... you are going to be looking for "quality" for a long, long, long time.

If you honestly believe your advice, then you are hoplessly plugged into the consumer/spend-to-impress lifestyle. Money equals quality/equals intelligent?

Wow...

Dude, money has never, EVER, been a factor in a relationship I'VE ever had. If it has, the chick didn't last past the first or second date: I don't live that lifestyle.

Work is a tool. It is a tool that you use to get where you want to be. When you get there, you retire. The problem is, people don't have a "there" in mind. They keep on going, they keep upgrading their lifestyles to be out of their means, they keep wanting a bigger, better everything. And, without patience and the "gotta have it all NOW!" attitude, these people dig a grave of debt ("I owe my soul to the company store" comes to mind here). You can sum it all up, the consumerism, the wage wars, ridiculous dating expectations, TV, you can sum it all up with one word:

Greed.

Look around.

Greed.

It affects EVERYTHING.

 

[Interceptor]

Hitman, I believe Vulpine is on the money on this one, bro.
You may be using some generalities or specifics in a world that could have such differing circumstances and variations that it could be tough to agree on your point.
Here's the deal.
You could be in a dead end job making $15/hour, yet still be High Value.

Get it?
It really is that simple.

IF/when you're ready you may realize that it IS self limiting in this case.
There are so many "What Ifs?" in this scenario, that we have to try to look at the possibility that some HV/HB Lawyer woman could be attracted to some guy who has a low paying job.
His Job does not equal HIS Worth.

BUT....

You may have to be realistic here and try to see that this guy in the low wage job could be self realized and ready, or not.

If not, then of course, your statement applies.
But we can't always measure ourselves tothe job we hold.
True. We should find contentment, as real men do. And if that means to stay at the low paying job you love, so be it.

We have to think:
"What is it this guy has to offer to the HVHB?"
and "What does she have to offer to him specifically?"
If there is an affinity and compatability, then by all means this scenario could work.
But ultimately, we have to realize that to score higher value and hotter women, we do have to at the very least have some self respect and have a job, and a car, etc.

 

[mzilla2]

Subscribing.

One note about volunteering, pick something you WANT to do anyhow.

In my years of volunteering I have yet to meet any attractive older SINGLE women. Met lots of young overstressed underpaid out of shape martyrs however. LOL...

Might be a function of what I volunteer for, special needs / handicapped recreation and social programs.

Work events, same deal, very few quality SINGLE ones my age. Again, prolly a function of demographics, quality product gets hitched, the older they are the less quality ones left... LOL

 

[Vulpine]

We have to think:
"What is it this guy has to offer to the HVHB?"
and "What does she have to offer to him specifically?"

All I have to offer is happiness. I have money, but I'm not offering that. In fact, I keep it ultra-secret: many women never found out. See, money isn't my goal, happiness is. And, I'm looking for a woman that will get on board with that - happiness despite money.

To the OP:
Essentially, you need to determine YOUR lifestyle and establish that which YOU consider valuable qualities in a woman. Once you establish what YOU want to do, do it, and look for the women THERE. We can't tell you what you want, or where to find it.

Well, we can, but you'd be seeking external validation. As far as being a DJ goes, that's a :nono:

 

[decades]

match.com

 

[edger]

Douche.

(You needed that, Hitman.)

That's some superficial, materialistic, self-limiting AFC garbage if I ever heard it.

If YOU are defining "success" or "quality" by one's job, $/hr, career and all that money crap... you are going to be looking for "quality" for a long, long, long time.

If you honestly believe your advice, then you are hoplessly plugged into the consumer/spend-to-impress lifestyle. Money equals quality/equals intelligent?

Wow...

Dude, money has never, EVER, been a factor in a relationship I'VE ever had. If it has, the chick didn't last past the first or second date: I don't live that lifestyle.

Work is a tool. It is a tool that you use to get where you want to be. When you get there, you retire. The problem is, people don't have a "there" in mind. They keep on going, they keep upgrading their lifestyles to be out of their means, they keep wanting a bigger, better everything. And, without patience and the "gotta have it all NOW!" attitude, these people dig a grave of debt ("I owe my soul to the company store" comes to mind here). You can sum it all up, the consumerism, the wage wars, ridiculous dating expectations, TV, you can sum it all up with one word:

Greed.

Look around.

Greed.

It affects EVERYTHING.

THANK YOU! This is what I've always said. From what I've seen so far, women don't give a sh*t about how big your bank account is. As long as you're a DJ is what matters.

 

[Wyldfire]

Subscribing.

One note about volunteering, pick something you WANT to do anyhow.

In my years of volunteering I have yet to meet any attractive older SINGLE women. Met lots of young overstressed underpaid out of shape martyrs however. LOL...

Might be a function of what I volunteer for, special needs / handicapped recreation and social programs.

Work events, same deal, very few quality SINGLE ones my age. Again, prolly a function of demographics, quality product gets hitched, the older they are the less quality ones left... LOL

What you volunteer and get involved in DOES make a difference. Literacy, nursing homes, red cross, etc...all are more likely to attract older women.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

match.com

It may not be for everyone but it works out rather well when you meet up with women within 3 or 4 days after you first make contact.

 

[edger]

But ultimately, we have to realize that to score higher value and hotter women, we do have to at the very least have some self respect and have a job, and a car, etc.

Not everyone can afford a car, especially those in low wage paying jobs. And not having a car if you can't afford one has nothing to do with self-respect. Now as far as not being able to score higher value and hot women if you lack this, I don't know, as I've never been without a car. But if I were to make an educated guess, once again, I'd say as long as you're a DJ, it wouldn't make a difference. How could not having a car put a hamper on a relationship? I can't think of any way. There's public transportation.

 

[Wyldfire]

Ok Wylde,

If the target species is lets say late 20's - early 30's, college or university educated women what would you say is a good volunteer opportunity? LOL

I do what I do now cuz it gives me some levity (these kids have to tough out a lot, I got it cake easy comparatively), but I'm always up for something new.

On the bucks side of the debate, define quality all ya want, but a substantial part of that to women and men alike today IS financial security and success, call it the modern day caveman equivalent of draggin back a kill on a regular basis. Broke ain't attractive, either to guys or gals, IMO.

I listed a few ideas in my last post. Political campaigns is another way to meet older women...as long as you make sure you only get involved in the campaigns of candidates you genuinely like. Church activities is another one.

 

[edger]

People, all this emphasis on materialism; thinking if you don't make a lot of money, you won't be successful with women(and hot women) is once again ALL part of the MATRIX..and some of you still haven't yet unplugged yourselves from it. The whole point and basis of this site is to escape the matrix lie that you've all your life been conditioned to. Live a DJ life and you'll be fine with women.

Kudos to you Vulpine for understanding that.

 

[Paradox]

The poster originally asked "where" does he find a quality woman. Many posts here address the question "What is a quality woman?"

This is a legitimate question since peoples opinion of a quality woman slightly differ.

There had been a seperate Merged thread opened (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=123922) about what defines a quality woman. Post your defininitions there.

I'm leaving this thread open so the posters original question can be answered.