Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Where do you guys find new music?

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The radio has always been trash, I've heard maybe 10 good songs on it my whole life.

I've used Pandora and Spotify for a decade. Pandora has ta very small library and it seems like I've already heard most of what I like. Spotify is very hit or miss and while sometimes the curated playlists are good, it's mostly pure trash.

Soundcloud and Youtube are too impractical to listen to in the BG, they're more for finding specific songs.

I used to add 100-200 new songs (new to me that is) to my Spotify library every year, but as of late I only add maybe a 1-2 dozen per year, it's kind of disconcerting actually. I am really picky about music so that doesn't help.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm still enjoying my old music. My heyday was the late 90's - early noughties.
Still banging my head to the old tunes and happy to do so.
 

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XM radio. College radio stations. SF Bay Area has a couple of decent radio stations that have some new music.
When I was on Tinder. I’d listen to the music my Matches had on their profiles. Found some good stuff.
 

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might try suggesting artists to you, see if you like them. try out King Crimson first
Oh ffs might as well rec Ornette Coleman. Don't recommend weird proggy stuff without knowing the OP's tastes first. C'mon man.

OP stick with old, proven artists from pre 2012 first. What specifically do you like?

(p.s. Ornette Coleman had a famous/infamous debut album where the people in his band played random stuff - out of key and out of time and with little regard for what the other band members were doing) that rubbed most people who listened to it the wrong way, needless to say. This is the kind of music you don't recommend to strangers.

It's like inviting someone to dinner and forcing them to try some strange recipe you're trying out. Just don't do it.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The radio has always been trash, I've heard maybe 10 good songs on it my whole life.
I don't think AM/FM radio has always been trash. I discovered a lot of good songs off of it in the past.

With that said, AM/FM radio for music has been declining for the better part of 2 decades.

I don't know how AM/FM radio has survived the following innovations....
  • CD players in cars
  • Sirius XM satellite radio
  • iPods/MP3 players
  • iPhones/other smartphones
All of those innovations were superior for listening to music in the car or home than AM/FM radio.
 

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I'm still enjoying my old music. My heyday was the late 90's - early noughties.
Still banging my head to the old tunes and happy to do so.
This is one thing I don't get, how people can listen to the same bands seemingly indefinitely. I used to love punk/hard rock like Linkin Park, Three Days Grace, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Green Day, A7X, can't fvcking stand any of them now.


XM radio. College radio stations. SF Bay Area has a couple of decent radio stations that have some new music.
When I was on Tinder. I’d listen to the music my Matches had on their profiles. Found some good stuff.
XM Radio is good but not worth the price

might try suggesting artists to you, see if you like them. try out King Crimson first
II'll check them out, I do like psychedelic/alt rock.
 

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Oh ffs might as well rec Ornette Coleman. Don't recommend weird proggy stuff without knowing the OP's tastes first. C'mon man.

OP stick with old, proven artists from pre 2012 first. What specifically do you like?

(p.s. Ornette Coleman had a famous/infamous debut album where the people in his band played random stuff - out of key and out of time and with little regard for what the other band members were doing) that rubbed most people who listened to it the wrong way, needless to say. This is the kind of music you don't recommend to strangers.

It's like inviting someone to dinner and forcing them to try some strange recipe you're trying out. Just don't do it.
He's very expressive about his taste though (saying there is little good music out there), which tells a lot about what music he really likes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I often find new music on Bandcamp these days.

My genre of choice is Irish folk music (songs and instrumentals), so, I've come to recognize which tags are often used for these albums, and I search those tags. Sort by Newest Arrivals, check a handful of tags every once and a while (e.g., "Irish", "Irish folk", "Celtic", etc.), skimming through any new albums which appeal to me.

Example:

If you want to have them on a Spotify playlist or something like that, you would need to put in extra effort to go find it there as well.

Personally, I download all of my music, and put it onto my phone.
 

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But be forewarned, you will find so much stuff that you will feel like Midas and his Golden Touch,
 
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