"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where do you cold approach?

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I've started to purposely go out for cold approaches. I was at the mall for five hours today with a wing, and all we managed to find is groups (I can't isolate like that), or girls with moms. Yes, I sat 10m away watching a 9 eye me to death as I knew her mom was returning any moment to have lunch with her. Do you know what that feels like? I finally thought I found a lone wolf, turned out to be she was a thirty year old so I aborted. There must be certain days and areas that girls come out of their sheltered shacks, because I'm not finding any!

So boys, where do you do your cold approaches, and when?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Need-2-B-Pimpin

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Groups? dammit, i just find mom/daughters...groups are fine, you can eventually isolate one with a bit of time and clever social stuff
 

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Originally posted by Need-2-B-Pimpin
Groups? dammit, i just find mom/daughters...groups are fine, you can eventually isolate one with a bit of time and clever social stuff
What do you use to isolate? I usually find groups of 3+, sometimes with AMOG's.
 

Need-2-B-Pimpin

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just talk to em, get numbers or watev n so on...just do what you can
 

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Originally posted by Need-2-B-Pimpin
just talk to em, get numbers or watev n so on...just do what you can
I don't like getting #'s unless I've isolated and created enough rapport that I feel satisfied with (and at least attempted a kiss)

Nevermind though, I investigated a new mall and found the motherload :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
I don't like getting #'s unless I've isolated and created enough rapport that I feel satisfied with (and at least attempted a kiss)

Nevermind though, I investigated a new mall and found the motherload :)
Thats a bad mentality to have. Always get the number, even if you have no intention to call. Always ask even if you have a feeling she'll say no, you never learn anything if you never take a chance.

or the quote "100% of chances not taken, are lost"
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
Thats a bad mentality to have. Always get the number, even if you have no intention to call. Always ask even if you have a feeling she'll say no, you never learn anything if you never take a chance.

or the quote "100% of chances not taken, are lost"
Yea, I'm not a fan of #'s though because alot of girls just give out #'s for the hell of it.

I like initially creating something they'll remember (IE: kiss, tons of kino) instead of just an approach with her friends. I usually use a wing if I want to isolate a 2some though I rarely initiate that.

I'm getting alot rolling these next couple days so I'm going to have to approach groups and attempt # closes, I admit to a major fault in my game which is group approaches. Though of course that will be destroyed in the next week or two.
 

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hmm.

Out of curiosity, how do you guys deal with chicks with their parents. I know most of you will just say to not even bother, but doesnt that seem like such a waste?
 

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Re: hmm.

Originally posted by BrocKing11
Out of curiosity, how do you guys deal with chicks with their parents. I know most of you will just say to not even bother, but doesnt that seem like such a waste?
Just don't even bother. Parents are the biggest ****blocks in the world.
 

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Yeah, I wouldn't even bother. Especially if she's with her dad..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hmm, odd...I've done a few approaches but today I went to the mall to get some food and after I sat down (didnt see any chicks to join), I thought about it and it felt different, it felt sort of cheesy to approach at lunch and all that...dunno why.
 

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Originally posted by Need-2-B-Pimpin
Hmm, odd...I've done a few approaches but today I went to the mall to get some food and after I sat down (didnt see any chicks to join), I thought about it and it felt different, it felt sort of cheesy to approach at lunch and all that...dunno why.
I know how that feels but honestly, it's just your mind creating imaginary blocks to hold you back. If you subcaunciously ask yourself if you should approach girls in the food court, your uncauncious brain will start feeding you tons of answers, some of which being negative. So dude, as weird as it may seem, just do it anyways, and if nothing else, just look at it as a way of overcoming any fears you may have.
 

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i cant do a cold approach if she's with her parents! it freaks me out! a dad once thought i was disrespecting him and they were shouting at me at the mall!!!

damn.. i havent recovered from that yet. i was very respectful AND courteous. believe me.

maybe you guys here can help me out if she's with her mom, dad or even both!
 
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