Where do I start?

[TJ5925]

Hi all - Looking for some advice on some starting points for myself in terms of meeting women and also curious as to what "types" of women may be interested in me and vice versa.

Some background on me:

Just turned 30 this year - and I feel like I am in a good place in my life. I maybe something of a late bloomer in that I have very limited intimate experience with women. It's just never happened for whatever reason.

I feel I have a lot of momentum right now and am ready to be more proactive in meeting women (or at least being in the right places) since just "living a normal life" hasn't worked to this point.

In terms of my looks - this is a strength. It's never been an issue. I'm very confident in my appearance and get reinforcement quite a bit.

Personality-wise, in good shape too. Really nice guy, down-to-earth, well-adjusted, easy-going, good sense of humor, love to laugh, intelligent, well read, cultured, sports/movie/tv buff, family-oriented, educated, have got good friends, etc. I have a lot of traits that blend well with lots of different people. Personality has never been an issue.

And I've developed myself in other areas too - I've got a nice career that pays well, own a nice condo in aN excellent part of town, just got a new car, etc.

Now saying all this...I've got very limited experience with women - no relationship, hardly any dates, etc. I'm ready. Just don't know what I can do differently to start making connections? I think just doing some of the little things better would help me - but what are they?

Also, what "types" of women would be a fit? Not to sound weird, but I feel like I've got a lot going for me - I just haven't been discovered in the right capacity yet. Sort of like a hidden gem.

Thanks all, sorry for the long post.

 

[No.Danny]

Everywhere there's women you should be approaching. The mall is great. Introduce yourself and mingle for a few minutes. In the highest point of conversion get the number and later set up a date. Remember it's a numbers game so the more numbers the higher chance. Seems like you have everything going. You just need to actually start approaching instead of being ready but not doing anything.

 

[Poop1337]

You start by making some approaches. Don't use this forum or game as a buffer to delay or put off meeting women. Go read The Rational Male and use the menu to get to the best of year one. Chateau Heartiste also a great blog. There is also the DJBible right here on this site which links you to a lot of inspirational informational posts.

Remember the key is approaching and escalating. Go after multiple girls at once don't get focused on one single girl you've just started dating. Don't be a doormat.

 

[TJ5925]

Thanks guys.

I don't know how to do the cold approach. I've got no problem talking to women that I know; or after there is an opening. I'm pretty solid there and have no problem with interaction. Cold approaches? I've never done it.

I need to find the middle ground and at least find a way to be responsive to the women who give signals. I'm not good at keeping eye contact with a woman who's smiling or giving glances, etc. My buddies tell me that I get checked out more than most but I do nothing with it. Zero. I'll make quick eye contact and look away. If I've got an advantage in terms of women looking my way - how can I respond in a way that makes it easier to approach?

I'm trying to find the way to turn the glances,smiles into a conversation. I'm very social once I know people but approaching females I don't know is definitely a little daunting even if I have built-in advantages.

 

[TJ5925]

I know I'm going to have to start approaching...just gotta do it, right?

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Hi all - Looking for some advice on some starting points for myself in terms of meeting women and also curious as to what "types" of women may be interested in me and vice versa.

Some background on me:

Just turned 30 this year - and I feel like I am in a good place in my life. I maybe something of a late bloomer in that I have very limited intimate experience with women. It's just never happened for whatever reason.

I feel I have a lot of momentum right now and am ready to be more proactive in meeting women (or at least being in the right places) since just "living a normal life" hasn't worked to this point.

In terms of my looks - this is a strength. It's never been an issue. I'm very confident in my appearance and get reinforcement quite a bit.

Personality-wise, in good shape too. Really nice guy, down-to-earth, well-adjusted, easy-going, good sense of humor, love to laugh, intelligent, well read, cultured, sports/movie/tv buff, family-oriented, educated, have got good friends, etc. I have a lot of traits that blend well with lots of different people. Personality has never been an issue.

And I've developed myself in other areas too - I've got a nice career that pays well, own a nice condo in aN excellent part of town, just got a new car, etc.

Now saying all this...I've got very limited experience with women - no relationship, hardly any dates, etc. I'm ready. Just don't know what I can do differently to start making connections? I think just doing some of the little things better would help me - but what are they?

Also, what "types" of women would be a fit? Not to sound weird, but I feel like I've got a lot going for me - I just haven't been discovered in the right capacity yet. Sort of like a hidden gem.

Thanks all, sorry for the long post.

So you say you have limited intimate experience with women but haven't been in a relationship, so you have only had one night stands?

 

[TJ5925]

Had a ONS one time - that's it.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Had a ONS one time - that's it.

Was The woman decent looking?

 

[TJ5925]

Yeah, she was reasonably attractive.

 

[Legday]

idk what your problem is, if what you say is true then you are good looking with good personality and you have:

[x] kisseda girl
[x] had sex with a girl
[x] gone "out"

idk why you are here, are you a troll? or perhaps you just came to gloat, gtfo with your bull****

 

[sph21]

You need to develop eye contact longer than her. If you can't hold eye contact longer than her at your first meeting, she will think that you're uninterested or a weak person. First eye contact will tell her whether you're interested or just looking around or a freak.

I used to had problems with looking people's eyes. So I made an effort to solve this issue. I started to look every person in the eyes most of the time but not 100%. I learnt to break away at some time to make them more comfortable with the eye contact. Even when I watch a movie, I practiced looking every character in the eye.

Until one day I realized that a girl is a girl. It doesn't matter if she's pretty or not, I treat them the same. I'm a man. If she can't respect me like one, then she's not worthy of me.

You're the price. You're the Prince while she's just a commoner. If she can have you, then she's a fortunate girl (not the other way around).

 

[JaegerPilot217]

idk what your problem is, if what you say is true then you are good looking with good personality and you have:

[x] kisseda girl
[x] had sex with a girl
[x] gone "out"

idk why you are here, are you a troll? or perhaps you just came to gloat, gtfo with your bull****

I doubt he is a troll

 

[JaegerPilot217]

or maybe he was a troll

 

[wishyo]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195515
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705
make sure to read them. you are in a great shape, based on what you said, girl will be chasing you. read those guides, they will help you deal with your inexperience (help me a lot at least) and help you to manage your emotions once you will start dating the actual chick (your head probably will explode and you will fall for her

 

[JaegerPilot217]

he hasn't been on here since, maybe he was a troll