Where do i start?

[onthepath]

Hi

I used to frequent these boards a lot, got my confidence growing and managed to move myself up from loser to semi-successful guy

I’m 21, at uni, and I have my life pretty much sorted, job, hobbies, etc, all except women

I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, never even gotten a girl’s number

I have no female friends either

Now I start working full time next year, so I want to get this area of my life sorted while I’m still at uni, and then start enjoying myself next year

Where do I start?

Eye contact and being personable (to some extent) is not the issue, I managed to get myself through some pretty gruelling interviews and land jobs

Cheers

 

[Serialized3]

Sounds like you have your work cut out for you.

It seems like you've read a lot of the material, but haven't applied it yet.

I'd suggest trying to be more outgoing and putting in a serious effort at making more female and male friends (shouldn't be too hard at uni - be sociable in class and join sports/clubs). That will allow you to meet a lot of girls through social circles.

Also, make more of an effort to actually game women. You say you have never gotten a number -- have you ever actually really gone out and tried? The only way to get better at gaming is through trial and error experiences.

 

[Alphamale1821]

ouch man that sucks to be in a university and missing the aspect of ****ing women has to suck. Missing out on high school is bad enough but college where ***** is simply a conversation away must be really hard. I'm sure someone will give some good advice. I'm to tired to advise anything beneficial at the moment.

 

[onthepath]

ouch man that sucks to be in a university and missing the aspect of ****ing women has to suck. Missing out on high school is bad enough but college where ***** is simply a conversation away must be really hard. I'm sure someone will give some good advice. I'm to tired to advise anything beneficial at the moment.

yeah i'm only now starting to realise what a lot i've missed

my friends to date have mainly been loser guys like myself, and being ignorant of what was out there, i was happy

but now i'm going to make some real changes. i'm going to lose the skinny dweeb look i have and bulk up so i dont have to be in a suit to look ok, i'm going to get good at my hobbies, and dammit i'm going to get good with women!

 

[onthepath]

my only thing is, i dont want to lose who i am in this process if it's possible

i have some nerdy characteristics and left wing tastes which i love. i of course have no problem cutting down on these isolating activities, but i dont want to start to pretending i'm someone i'm not

i've met some guys who retain their nerd characteristics but are just so smooth and charming that women dont care, and hell even join in on a friday night watching science fiction (not all the time, but i hope you get what i mean)

 

[onthepath]

bump

am i on the wrong boards?
is everyone here just into smoking and drinking and going to parties all the time? no other types of people here?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

bump

am i on the wrong boards?
is everyone here just into smoking and drinking and going to parties all the time? no other types of people here?

No, we're out here. We just enjoy watching some of you guys bounce frantically off the walls.

You've already said it, you're going to start working on yourself. Getting fit and getting some new hobbies that involves interacting with other people will build your self confidence, without it you end up going down the road that you're pretending to be someone you're not.

Become comfortable in your own skin, start building an life that you find interesting and enjoyable; then start sarging women. It'll be a bit easier for you then.

 

[Last Man Standing]

...all except women

I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, never even gotten a girl’s number

I have no female friends either

Why not?

Are you some genius scientist who has been working in an underground laboratory for the last four years, working on a chemical concoction to save humanity from the next viral outbreak?

What were you doing in school? It'll be a lot harder once you start working!

 

[onthepath]

it was my fault

i found every excuse in the book to stay within my sh!tty comfort zone...i've never really had much money, i have bad breath, you name it...

but then usually i just focus on on my career and use study as an excuse, i've got awesome grades, which always used to get me to interviews, but then i fked em up in interviews

so i began working on myself and now have got my career pretty well sorted for now

but i was clinging to the hope that it'd be easier when i start working...i plan to move out of home, get a bike (maybe) and start living it up

 

[Last Man Standing]

You never approached a woman!!! You obviously lack self-confidence!! You don't money to get a girl! See a dentist for your breath issue - problem solved!

Use your intelligence and hard working attitude to get woman - but as I stated - it will be much harder when you are devoting 20 hours of your life to sleep and work.

College is a hor's playground, and this is the time for the man to play!