"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Where do I stand?

navyseal2101

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So with a recent girl I have been "gaming", although not really, a lot of weird things have happened and I'm surprised I've gotten as far as I have. I figure I'm either close to blowing it or have already lol, not sure yet but basically for some reason I've done like a ton of stuff wrong. So I want you guys to tell me where you think I stand as of now, because I don't want to waste any more time if it's blown.

Got her number. She was really nervous during it and gave almost every IOI imaginable.

Invited her to a mountain house. She was like "Oh yea I defiantly want to go that sounds like sooo much fun." Lots of smiling and eye contact and she was nervous.

She tells 2 of my friends she thinks I'm cute.

I don't call to tell her were not going to the mountains.

Don't see her for 1-2 weeks.

Call her and ask her out. Im nervous because I haven't seen her so long. She says ok though, and I pick her up.

Date from http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1541616&posted=1#post1541616 occurs.

See her 2 days after and she's obviously going somewhere but I stop her and say we should hang out again. She's not really paying attention, not many IOI's, but she was obviously in a rush.

Don't see her for 2 days.

Im in hallway taking to friends and my back is to her as she's coming up the hallway. I see my friend (girl) mouthing "do it". I turn my head to see her right beside me. She says hi and waves but I only see it at the last second. I say "hey" but she kind of just smiles and walks away. My one friend goes "That was soooooo awwwwkkkwwwaarrdd" She then tell me the girl was watching me the whole way up the hallway and was hesitant to say hi, so thats why she mouthed it.

Called her but she wasn't home or didn't answer, probably out though as I called kind of late for a Friday.

I just feel like that last thing would make her think were to awkward, but I'm beginning to think she's a bit awkward to around me, so maybe she's just nervous, thats what my friend said. She also said that the girl isnt going to keep putting up with it, so hat made me feel like it was my fault and to be honest, I'm kind of nervous now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm in the Mood

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Honesty and having fun is the best way to avoid awkwardness.

What's your goal with this girl though?
 

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Things are only awkward if you make them awkward
 

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Are you sure you're not mistaking awkwardness for sexual tension? Because girls love that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Um, not really sure with her. I know at one point she really wanted to hook up with me, but idk anymore. Sexual tension though, that would make sense just because of smiling and such, I can't believe it hasn't crossed my mind by now. The last time was kind of awkward though, like even I felt awkward.
 

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This girl has given you every sign you needed to show she's very interested in you. She even said, point blank.... SHE WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU!!! Stop trying to wife her up as a GF and give her some lovin' bro! It's very likely she's a freak, which means she wants sex. No games, she's not leading you on, she's trying to cut the bull and get some ****. Don't get emotionally attached to her, don't hit it and quit it either, that's stupid.
Wear a condom, give her good sex, and let her fall for you. Don't get attached to her, and don't see her more than 2x a week. Where are your other girls at? Go see them a while so you don't get all caught up on this one.
 

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Alright so I'm guessing most of you guys are thinking that last incident didn't blow it. I have completely like stopped seeing any other girls for the past week for some reason. James18, what you said was basically what my plan would be assuming you guys felt like there was still attraction, and now I definitely feel like there is.
 
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