"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Where do I go from here...?
- Thread starter mr_guido
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NorwegianDJ
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There's gotta be a way that I can turn this around, I mean, she used to really like me and I'm sure she still would if I showed her a different side of me. I'm going to see her again tonight (party) so what do I say?
NorwegianDJ
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By that I dont mean tell her your feelings. This isnt logical.
Show it, through intent. Through touch, eye contact, all that stuff.
Escalate
Seal the deal.
Just move things forward so that you can do it by tonight.
Dont wait untill last minute, never worked for me.
There are dozens of girls you could go up to and try to start a relationship with right now.
This girl is playing games.
You on here trying to figure out "what to do to get her back" isn't helping.
Move on.
She obviously isn't extremely attracted to you.
Done.
Stop wasting your time.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
YoYoRocks
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He's the most logical because its what you wanted to hear, lol.mr_guido said:
Tell us how it went.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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look there was nothing you coulda done bro. dont beat yourself up because you think some other guy beat you to it. he didnt. you were never a competitor in the first place. at least, not by the time you made this thread. you cant just 'fix' the way a girl thinks about you by 'showing her a different side' of you. that never happens. i still dont think even luke put it harshly enough, so allow me.
SHES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, BRO. SORRY.
norwegian's post was, like someone said, what you wanted to hear, false hope, and also a last ditch attempt that even he probably knew had no chance of working anyway. he even insinuated that it was a last ditch try that wasnt gonna work.
future advice? dont dig yourself into that hole. never center your entire life and future around one girl. theres plenty of other fish man, as has been stated repeatedly. move on, this time dont wait so long and think too hard about it. who cares if you fail again. youll keep failing before you get it right