About a month ago I started seeing this girl. We went on two dates. First I took her to an art exhibit, and then we went to a concert. A week and a half ago she called me and asked me to take her to her prom. I went over to her house on saturday, and there were some other people there. We hung out, and watched a movie. I had my arm around her, and then when I left she walked out with me, and I kissed her. Then a few days later she IM's me and says "I don't know what kind of impression I gave you, but I'm really not ready for a relationship" sorry to be blunt but WTF?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Where did I go wrong?
- Thread starter Banjo
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Does she have a previous boyfriend? She could just be testing you.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Yeah, but really seeing if you are your own man. Just act as if you dont really need her.
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Did you kiss her at all on the first two dates?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Do her friends like you? One of them might have had a hand in this.
Im on very good terms with one of her best friends, but Im not so sure about her other friends, and I'm beginning to suspect the same. The real question is should I even bother trying to get her back or should I say screw it, and accept the wasted effort