About a month ago I started seeing this girl. We went on two dates. First I took her to an art exhibit, and then we went to a concert. A week and a half ago she called me and asked me to take her to her prom. I went over to her house on saturday, and there were some other people there. We hung out, and watched a movie. I had my arm around her, and then when I left she walked out with me, and I kissed her. Then a few days later she IM's me and says "I don't know what kind of impression I gave you, but I'm really not ready for a relationship" sorry to be blunt but WTF?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Where did I go wrong?
- Thread starter Banjo
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Does she have a previous boyfriend? She could just be testing you.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Yeah, but really seeing if you are your own man. Just act as if you dont really need her.
A&F Brand Cologne
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Did you kiss her at all on the first two dates?
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Do her friends like you? One of them might have had a hand in this.
Im on very good terms with one of her best friends, but Im not so sure about her other friends, and I'm beginning to suspect the same. The real question is should I even bother trying to get her back or should I say screw it, and accept the wasted effort