"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Where did I go wrong?

DonJuanit0

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I was at a club the week before and met a HB 7.5.

In the club she was dancing all the time and everyone was staring at her, even a guy bought her champagne! Well, before that as soon as I got in the club she came and raised her glass saying, "Marina" (her name) I raised mine touched her on the shoulder and said, "George"! After that she just left, so after a while I went over her table, she stood up and came towards me, I got her from her waist and said: "That was the worst way of meeting I've ever seen", she laughed and she told me she would come over my table after a while, so I left back to my friends! I got her number when she came, made her laugh a bit, had some nice kino on her chick and her waist and then she left the club saying goodnight!

Now, she WAS interested in me, she kept staring me when she was dancing and asked me to dance with her when everyone was looking at her, even the guy who bought her the champagne lol! I had her number and didn't send a message/call or anything for 2 days as I have read here, (she didn't have my number, I asked her to write hers down on my cell and I would communicate with her), after 2 days I send a message saying: "Hey it's George from Sense club, this is my number".

And, that was it! Nothing since then! 3 days after the message I sent, and nothing!

Where did I go wrong?!?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonJuanit0

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I see... Completely forgot about not texting the first time, lol!
 

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I disagree with the first two responses.

There's nothing terribly wrong with TXTing in that situation. Had he called her, he'd have got the voice mail, especially since she did not have his number, she would not likely pick up to answer a call from a strange number. He might leave a message and will get no response 3 days later either.

What's happening here is that he got a number from a tipsy club chick who was in partying mood that night. She had some interest in him then, but a couple of days later, while she's at work or at uni doing assignments, she's not in that mood anymore. She's not gonna give a toss about him then.

If a chick is keen, she will respond regardless of the way you contact her. I used to be a phone-call only guy, but I've tested TXT, email, Facebook and IM - they all work the same (i.e same flake rate and same success rate).

Most club numbers are rubbish, especially if the girl's been drinking, dancing & attention wh0ring. Always escalate as far as you can on that same night. If you have to get a number (after having planted decent hooks), call her not 2-3 days later, but when she's about to get in the party time mood - usually that's Thursday afternoon / night the next week, and make plan for Friday night or that weekend.

That TXT could be improved though. He basically gave her his number and reintroduced himself. There was nothing for her to respond to.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JDA70

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It wasn't because you text'd her it's what's you wrote
"Hey it's George from Sense club, this is my number".

You should of just asked her out.
 
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