Okay, so here it is:
This chick has liked me for ages, but she lives with her ex-boyfriend, they live so close to me I literally see them every day basically.
They were going out, but a while ago, they broke up.. a few weeks after they broke up, the chick and I wound up kissing/making out, she wanted to date me then and there but I thought I'd try be a good friend and cool it over with her ex, since they live together and he was getting angry whenever she'd come and see me.
So I cool it over with her ex, he gives me his blessing or whatever, then the next day things are going good except we can't really do anything together at home since he's still got feelings for her and it'd piss him off (not that I care personally, I'm just not a ****).. so we spend a few nights away from home, have sex, all the good stuff.
I take her out a few days later, things are cool, we come home and she goes to her joint (which I'm cool with except her ex lives their) and then no joke, overnight something changed, the next day I didn't see her at all, didn't see her for a few days.
Eventually I get the chance to talk to her and she decides she wants to just take it easy as friends (how can this be when I've already rooted her?)..
Then about a week or so later of virtually no contact, I talk to her and she's decided she wants to try work things out with her ex.
Thing is she obviously had real feelings for me at the time, she told me she's wanted to root me for ages and she's had feelings for me for ages, she also told me she still has feelings for me to this day (most recent conversation was 2 days ago and she still said this), but she doesn't think it's right to act on them.
I don't really understand what happened - her ex was only just coming to terms with it and not getting pissed off all the time, and then she decides she wants to go back with him.
Where did I go wrong?
I wasn't too needy or attached or anything, but I honestly didn't get to spend enough time with her because of her ex getting pissed off all the time.
Does it seem like she was threatened or scared into staying with him since he gets pissed off all the time or what?
EDIT: And is there anything I can do to make her want to pursue her feelings for me?
This chick has liked me for ages, but she lives with her ex-boyfriend, they live so close to me I literally see them every day basically.
They were going out, but a while ago, they broke up.. a few weeks after they broke up, the chick and I wound up kissing/making out, she wanted to date me then and there but I thought I'd try be a good friend and cool it over with her ex, since they live together and he was getting angry whenever she'd come and see me.
So I cool it over with her ex, he gives me his blessing or whatever, then the next day things are going good except we can't really do anything together at home since he's still got feelings for her and it'd piss him off (not that I care personally, I'm just not a ****).. so we spend a few nights away from home, have sex, all the good stuff.
I take her out a few days later, things are cool, we come home and she goes to her joint (which I'm cool with except her ex lives their) and then no joke, overnight something changed, the next day I didn't see her at all, didn't see her for a few days.
Eventually I get the chance to talk to her and she decides she wants to just take it easy as friends (how can this be when I've already rooted her?)..
Then about a week or so later of virtually no contact, I talk to her and she's decided she wants to try work things out with her ex.
Thing is she obviously had real feelings for me at the time, she told me she's wanted to root me for ages and she's had feelings for me for ages, she also told me she still has feelings for me to this day (most recent conversation was 2 days ago and she still said this), but she doesn't think it's right to act on them.
I don't really understand what happened - her ex was only just coming to terms with it and not getting pissed off all the time, and then she decides she wants to go back with him.
Where did I go wrong?
I wasn't too needy or attached or anything, but I honestly didn't get to spend enough time with her because of her ex getting pissed off all the time.
Does it seem like she was threatened or scared into staying with him since he gets pissed off all the time or what?
EDIT: And is there anything I can do to make her want to pursue her feelings for me?