"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where are the best places to meet people in a new city?

T-Mack

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I just moved in with my LTR girlfriend of two years. I waited until I secured a new job before making the move. My job requires me to travel a lot and I am never working in the same city. However, on my time off I am back in the city that I moved to with my girlfriend for a couple of days or few weeks before returning to work.

I’ve never moved to a new state before. So far I’ve only met a few of my girlfriend’s friends (mostly female). I made the mistake of no longer actively meeting new people after getting into a LTR. As of now my social skills are not the greatest when it comes to meeting new people and I often come off as socially awkward (aka creepy, especially around women). I’d like to make both female and male friends of my own that are not associated with my girlfriend’s friends. I am obviously no longer a college student, but I am living in a large college town so there are plenty of young people here within my age range. I’d appreciate any helpful tips/ideas for meeting new people.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FairShake

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Work, bars, and through friends are where the majority of people meet their friends. I guess there are hobby-oriented places too like the gym or playing basketball.

For those of us who are a bit more socially awkward there are classes at the local community college and meetup groups. Check them out.
 
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